Hey there, Jen here, and this is a happy bit. I want to talk today about surrender.

Surrender is a big word with lots of meaning. Maybe it makes you think of weakness or letting go or giving up.

And maybe you picture things you've seen on TV where perhaps there are two sides of a war and one side waves that white flag and then they surrender.

They give up. They've lost. It's a sad day. Now, a lot of us take that idea of surrender as weakness and bring it into our lives.

And in our culture, we adopt ideas like

never give up, never quit, keep going until the end. And we try to apply it in all areas of our

life, but it can actually be one of the leading causes of unhappiness and dissatisfaction and

lack of contentment in our lives.

So I want to talk to you about what it means for me to surrender.

The dictionary says surrender means essentially to stop fighting, to stop resisting.

And I want you to think for a minute, what are those things in your life that you resist, the things that

you don't like, the things that bring you deep sadness and frustration and worry? All of those

low vibration emotions, fear, worry, sadness, shame, all of it means we are resisting what is.

The opposite is truly living in the energy of love where we live in the now, mindful awareness,

mindful self-compassion, mindfully living in that energy of love and joy and peace in the present moment

with acceptance. So I feel that surrender isn't weakness, but it is acceptance. Now, a lot of

you are cringing already. You're saying, Jen, my husband is so lazy. Okay, you're not really saying that, but you might be. Or my teenager is so

sassy or I'm so overweight or whatever all of these things are that you resist. You're saying,

you're telling me I'm supposed to accept it? Well, I'm not going to tell you anything, but hear me out

throughout this little happy bit. When you are in the energy of resistance, you are unhappy.

But if you take it too far, it becomes unhelpful and unmotivating because you shift into an energy of shame and fear and not good enough.

So this is your measuring line. If you don't want to surrender or you're not sure about it, shift

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