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Hi, this is Janet Lansbury and welcome to Unruffold.

This week I'm going to be responding to a question from a parent who has just experienced

her toddler's first tantrum.

And she tried to remain calm and respectful, but is wondering if she might have handled

the situation differently.

Here's the note I received on my Facebook page.

Hi Janet, my 13 month old had his first meltdown tantrum yesterday.

He wanted to open the freezer and take things out.

I let him look and touch a couple of things, but told him we had to keep the door shut so

the food can stay cold.

I've been reading your posts and I spoke to him in a way which I thought was respectful

and patient, letting him know I wasn't just shutting the door and would let him explore

for a moment.

I tried to acknowledge his feelings.

Well, he didn't like it and he started crying and arching his back.

At this point, I took him to the living room, told him I was sorry he felt that way, and

tried to explain why we could not keep the freezer door open.

And I understood he was upset, but he couldn't play in the freezer anymore.

His crying and screaming was a lot louder than the voice I was using to talk to him, so

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