The following talk was given at the Insight Meditation Center in Redwood City, California.

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Okay.

So, uh, that's good to, good to say with you.

Um,

so non-hate, love, love is the theme, sweek.

And sometimes we have the sense that disliking, liking, loving are three points along the same spectrum.

And that, you know, when I, you know, I might hate you, I might like you, I might like, like, like you, or I might love you.

Right?

But that's not right to my mind.

Love steps outside of the realm of ordinary hedonic preference. In other words, love is not another species of wanting.

The Buddha suggested that wanting and fear

are two sides of the same coin, the coin of clinging. And it seems like we wanting fear such different states.

But at the, um, Excuse me.

At the felt experience level of wanting and fear, what is shared is a certain kind of motivational desperation.

And there's some interesting brain silence

that highlights some of the shared kind of neurobiology

of wanting and fear, the kind of motivational pressure, salience, that's either negatively

or positively valenced, making something wanted or feared. And both states contract the mind.

Both states make this moment in and of itself essentially meaningless.

Turn the moment into a transaction.

Fear and wanting turn life into a dollar store or something.

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