If you feel okay in your sobriety and you're feeling strong and don't feel like turning to the bottle after the loss of a loved one, then this is the time that your sobriety can come in helpful.

You're not wasted so you can be a pillar of support. Be the one making the rounds of tea,

the shoulder to lean on, the taxi from the train station and the one cleaning the dishes after the

wake. Be a healthy support, a reliable friend and the dependable force that others might need in a

difficult time. Step into action and so others won't have to worry about the little things.

Keeping busy like this will help you abstain and distract you from drinking.

Other than turning to the bottle as a means of numbing out pain, it might also be that you turn

to the bottle when you feel lonely or unsupported in your grief. I want to take this opportunity to share a few of the

lessons I've learnt about grief through my other podcast. The truth is, I hope that you only experience

grief a handful of times in your life, but you will have plenty of friends who will also experience it,

so you'll probably have to help them through theirs 30, 40, 50 times throughout your life. That's a good point, Hame. If we can all improve the way we help those we love through grief, then they might never get to the point where they feel they need to turn to the bottle for support. Yeah. I've interviewed lots of friends of mine at different stages of grief. And there are a few things that came up more than once. So if you don't have time or energy, or you just can't be asked to go and listen to all of the episodes, but here are some of the top tips that I've learned through that podcast. Can you tell us what your podcast was called, Hamish? Yes, extraordinary, ordinary people. Great. And you'll find it's a big black and white shot of my face is the thing, so you can't miss it.

Love your face, though.

Thank you.

So, yeah, the first one is don't send text on the day they pass away.

Oh, interesting.

Don't do it.

They get a hundred of them, probably a thousand of them.

And it's something that you can do when you're taking a shit.

It requires no energy, no effort,

even if it's very thought-provoking and beautifully written, they will not have that text

in six months' time. Instead, here's what you're going to do. You're going to sit down and

you're going to write a letter. I know that sounds dated, but there's something very important about handwritten

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