Hi everybody. Welcome to the women's dating and confidence podcast. My name is Amber, and today I want to talk to you about getting ghosted.

Before we get into that, I want to suggest to you that you get my free guide,

copy and paste text for when he's pulling away or acting flaky. And there's going to be a link for

that in the show notes. So somebody recently replied to one of my emails and she said that her biggest challenge in dating

was that she just got ghosted recently and it really hurt of course. And she just couldn't understand

why somebody would do that to her. And it makes her feel like

dating isn't safe. Like you go all in on somebody and then they ghost you and it makes you feel

terrible. And then she even tried to get some closure like calling him or texting him and just

being like, hey, like what's going on, but he never responded.

And she says she's crying and it hurts so much and I totally understand that. And so today,

actually, I don't have a super insightful tip for you. What I want to tell you is that it has nothing to do

with you if you get ghosted, nothing at all. And the most painful part of ghosting is one.

First of all, you're confused for a while. It's almost like it's worse to anticipate rejection and not sure if you're going to get rejected

versus somebody just ripping off the band-aid and rejecting you.

So that confusion state really hurts.

But secondly, it really hurts because of what we make it mean about us. We make it mean that we did

something wrong. And if we had been more perfect, they wouldn't do this to us. And it means that

dating isn't safe. So those meanings are actually what really make it the most painful. And so the first thing that I really wanted to make sure that

you understand is that it's not personal at all. In fact, most people that I've known, I mean,

I haven't asked everybody that I know, but a lot of people I know, including myself, have been ghosted

before. And especially, and I'm going to go there in our society today, it's very common.

And people are doing it more and more. And it just seems really easy to do it. Like, if you know you're not going to see somebody again,

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