Welcome to the Shalene Show. Shalene is a New York Times best-selling author,

celebrity fitness trainer, and obsessed with helping you live your dream life.

Hey there! Thanks so much for joining me on The Ride. This is Shalene and you are

listening to the Shalene Show. Thanks for being a passenger. I do appreciate it.

Just for the record, case my mom's listening, both hands on the wheel and eyes are on the road.

I'm just talking to my friends mom. Listen, I want to talk to you about how to get what you want.

How to get what you want and I want to start with a story. This is a true story. It's a very good

chance that this person is listening or may listen to this podcast someday and that's okay.

But there's a point in, I mean, you know, there are things that we need, right, or things that we want.

And usually when there's something that we want, it involves another person. Either they have to

help us in some way, there's something they can do. I mean, can't do it on your own. You need

the help of others. Sometimes what we want is just a little extra help around the house.

Or sometimes what we want is to be appreciated at work. Or sometimes what we want is a promotion.

Sometimes what we want is for someone else to just understand how we feel or someone to use

good manners once are not the same thing as needs. They are above and beyond, which means we need

other people to cooperate. And in most circumstances, you can't force somebody to give you what you want.

At least that's not very polite. You've got to figure out how to get what you want.

I found this to be very challenging with the kids because there are things you want your kids to do.

But you also want to teach them. And you want them to just, you want them, here's the one.

You want them to want to do it themselves as opposed to being told what to do. What you don't

want to do is to have to babysit your kids when they're old enough to know better, when these

things need to start turning into habits. So there's all different types of wants. I get an email

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