I amla. I've been very open about the fact that I was not always good and making my

relationships work. I have been divorced three times twice from the same person. In other words, I have seen a lot and failed a lot in my relationships.

So I am here to share with you what I learned along the way because I did take copious notes.

Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with I Heart Radio. When we get feedback from an audio device sometime on our phone or on the

computer, it's like a loud screeching noise that we don't want to hear.

That's the same thing we do when we get feedback in our relationships.

And it usually comes to us in a very forceful, harmful, dysfunctional way, but it's still feedback. And feedback is purposeful.

My next caller has some feedback and we're going to dissect it together.

Listen.

Greetings beloved and welcome to the R spot.

Thank you for calling in today.

And what is your relationship challenge issue or dilemma?

Oh boy, okay.

Well first let me say thank you so much for taking my call.

And my dilemma is I feel lost.

I feel lost and I don't know what to do or feel or how to react to the people that have decided to cut off ties with me but now I have

reached out in hopes to reconnect and I just don't know what to do.

Okay, so you'll your loss because they left.

I was lost when they left originally it's it's been a couple people but majority like the

one that's hit me the most or two cases like one was my cousin and one was my best friend from like high school.

So what does that mean cut off ties? What does that mean? What did that look like?

With my best friend, she had changed her phone number, and didn't tell me any of that. She changed her phone number and didn't tell me any of that she changed her phone number

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