Generational Boundaries
The R Spot with Iyanla
Shondaland Audio and iHeartPodcasts
4.9 • 908 Ratings
🗓️ 26 July 2023
⏱️ 43 minutes
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Summary
In the final episode of Season one of The R Spot, Iyanla reflects on an important lesson with Two women who want to discuss boundaries for very different situations. The first caller feels like she has to set a strict boundary with her stepmother, who she is in conflict with. And the second caller feels like her boundaries are constantly violated at work, so much so that she gets angry about it. Iyanla helps guide both women toward the realization that sometimes accountability looks different between generations.
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| 0:00.0 | I amla your host your guide a teacher for Sam and a soft place to fall for others |
| 0:09.1 | and I was a miserable failure in my relationships until I love myself enough to be able to share my love with other people. |
| 0:19.0 | Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in establishing and maintaining healthy relationships. |
| 0:45.6 | Boundaries. Boundaries. What is appropriate, what isn't appropriate, what is |
| 0:51.2 | acceptable, what isn't |
| 0:53.0 | acceptable, we have to have boundaries and for some reason |
| 0:56.7 | it seems that it's so challenging for us to create a boundary |
| 1:02.0 | until people are running a muck. |
| 1:05.0 | Once they start running a muck, then we want to put up the stop sign. |
| 1:09.0 | No, no, no, no, no. |
| 1:11.0 | If you establish a boundary earlier, if you make specific requests earlier, if you have specific agreements early, early in the relationship, you have something to lean into when things start to run amok. |
| 1:27.0 | If you don't have boundaries, what happens is when you find yourself sitting in a mess, then you're going to want to know what to do. |
| 1:36.0 | That's exactly where my first caller is, in a mess, not knowing what to do. |
| 1:41.0 | Listen to this. |
| 1:48.0 | Greetings beloved and welcome to the R spot. What is the relationship challenge issue dilemma that you have today that we can explore together? |
| 1:55.0 | Well, there are other challenges with my father and his wife. |
| 2:01.0 | They've been married for quite some time, but recently in the last couple of years, his relationship with his wife has kind of peeped over into my relationship with my father. |
| 2:13.7 | We had an incident last year, and we went to get support |
| 2:20.8 | and help from our pastor and had a family meeting that included her and my dad and my |
| 2:27.2 | sister and I and from that conversation we had said that we would be cordial with each |
| 2:32.2 | other and so I said you know I would be cordial and you know there were a couple |
| 2:40.3 | times where I would see her and I would say hello and she would either you know |
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