Get Over “The One That Got Away” and Heal | Matt Monday

Love Life With Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Society & Culture, Relationships, Education, Self-improvement, 971900

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 15 December 2025

⏱️ 10 minutes

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Summary

Breakups can flip your whole world upside down, and in this week’s video, Matthew and Jay Shetty get real about what those moments actually feel like. They discuss why healing doesn’t follow a timeline, and why some seasons of pain simply have to be lived through at their own pace.

They also talk about how heartbreak can shape you in unexpected ways and why “right person, wrong time” doesn’t exist. Don’t miss this honest conversation between two friends about finding strength in the very moments you wish you could fast-forward.

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0:00.0	Let's talk a bit about breakups because it seems to be a path that you have to walk and have to take.
0:10.0	And there's no real acceleration or there's not, as you said, there's not like, I'm going to get over this break up in three months, right?
0:17.0	There's no timeline or deadline that you can set on it.
0:20.0	But it's just uncomfortable,
0:21.4	and it's almost like sitting in discomfort. What do we do when we're sitting in that discomfort?
0:26.7	Well, when you're in the depths of it, because there's different phases, right? Like, there's
0:33.6	certainly a phase of any heartbreak when it's genuine deep heartbreak where you are just questioning your existence, where you are like, I remember having my own heartbroken and sitting on the door, the doorstep of my house with a friend of mine.
0:57.8	And just with tears in my eyes saying to him, I just feel like I'm not good enough.
1:01.2	That was my deep sense was that I am not good enough.
1:06.0	And if I was good enough, I would have been able to make this work. And that's a horrible place to be. And you,
1:17.1	you know, we have to have compassion for ourselves in those times because it's brutally difficult.
1:25.1	It's a time where we just need love and we need to celebrate the fact that we got
1:32.3	through another day and that we got and managed to get out of bed today. And, you know, it was a
1:40.5	act of, it was a heroic act for me to just get out of bed.
1:51.8	We then have to, you know, I always think that all of these moments give us gears that we wouldn't have had otherwise. And the worst pain of my life has given me access to gears that I didn't
1:59.1	know I had. And as much as no one wants to hear it when they're in it,
2:04.6	those gears turn out to be really valuable.
2:08.6	They really do.
2:10.6	I mean, we all choose suffering in our lives.
2:14.6	Like we choose to go to the gym.
2:16.6	That's choosing suffering. We choose like to write a book.
2:21.3	That's choosing a form of suffering. We choose to make a podcast or we choose to climb a literal mountain or like we choose pain in our lives regularly because we know that it gives us there are benefits to be had.
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