at any given moment you can choose self-protection or you can choose connection

and this is about empowering all of us to take a breath dig down a little deeper and reach

for connection over self-protection have the courage to take those risks not in circumstances where

it is objective I mean not in domestic violence or something like that but in normal circumstance

to soothe the frightened or righteous or whatever little boys and girls inside of us and then to

reach with that best part of us into connection with wisdom and compassion and skill we are

born for connection it is what we're designed for as a species is the only thing that's going to make

us happy so our culture gets it wrong but we can get it right you know one of the things I say and

is we may not have the capacity to bring peace to Ukraine or the Middle East but we can bring peace

to our living rooms and our bedrooms let's start there welcome to therapist uncensored building on

decades of professional experience this podcast tackles neurobiology modern attachment and more

in an honest way that's helpful in healing humans your session begins now with Dr. Anne Kelly

in Sumeriat hi this is Anne today's topic is one that needs to be talked about at this time

in our culture it's at the core of much of our discord that we're experiencing in our relationships

and in society as a whole and I don't think I'm exaggerating we're talking about toxic

individualism so our guest today Terry Rio is at the forefront of this discussion and today he's

going to shake the way you think about yourself and your relationships so Terry's a master's

couple therapist and a best-selling author and today we're talking about the winner take all dynamic

which is just devastating to our relationships in undermining our communities and this is not just

about couples this is about how we relate to one another as a whole so we're honored to have Terry

on the show soon I have both followed his work and gained so much from his wisdom over the years

he was one of the first to write on the stigma of male depression in his book I don't want to talk

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