Welcome back, ma'amie, to part 2 of this freaking Pado's episode with a retired US Army Major and combat veteran, divorced mummer 3, and yet still managed to build a 8 figure business all on her own, ma'amie, even though she at moments was about to take her life. Even though she actually had a couch that she named the suicide couch because all of the trouble's and turbulent things that she went through, she just couldn't cope and she thought that was the ending.

But damn! actually had a couch that she named the suicide couch because all of the troubles and turbulent things that she went through she just couldn't cope

and she thought that was the ending but damn this woman got back up time and

time again and built her own eight-figure business that's right I'm talking about Dr. Sonia, Mahami and we're just getting started in part one guys and so today she talks about the seven warrior women traits you need in order to find your power and live the life on your terms. She then breaks down how to decide if you want to stay in the battlefield quote unquote of your mind or the situation in your life or if you actually want to leave. So guys this episode is so freaking good let's dive in right now I'm your host Lisa Billy and yes this is women of impact. You said the word hope that really hit me. If you've been in a relationship where you don't necessarily feel great, you don't feel sex, you don't feel beautiful, you may not feel worthy. And it's just this dripping effect on you over time, on your emotions, on your abilities to get back up over time. A lot of people, I don't want to say most people, but a lot of people don't believe that they have the strength to make it through alone. They don't believe that they can do alone. So they either stay in that relationship or they get out of it and then move immediately to another unhealthy relationship because they are fearful of, I don't have someone next to me. If you've been with someone since you're at the age of 13, you've always had someone with you all the time. That idea of them being alone and leaving that relationship can be so scary that almost the battle of the devil you know. It's better to be in this relationship even though it doesn't serve me. And to be by myself, have to face myself, but your story brings people hope. How did you have that hope in that moment or did you have the hope? Oh, I didn't. Oh gosh, no, I have to be very honest about that. No, I had no idea what I was about to endure after that. I just knew I couldn't stay, right? I just knew I couldn't stay another day. I was time. Like I was miserable. You know, I had heard years of people talking about either lonely in their marriage. How in the world should you or why should you be lonely in your marriage? There's some things that you haven't dealt with or the couple hasn't dealt with and when I was experiencing it I didn't really have anybody to talk to. I didn't have anybody because you know the orthodox marriage about you know the church and you talk to them no no no just fix it just deal with it. I believe we have as women more options and making a decision, I can do bad by myself and I can do great by myself, but I can do even better with the right person and not jumping from one relationship and ending up with the same person. Take some time to heal. I really believe that was the same grace for me. I took some time to heal, but really thinking about marriage and what it really is, it's supposed to be a partnership. That I didn't know. Like you hear about marriage, just get with someone, you know, you change your last name and you have children and you live happily ever after. But not if you have two broken people, two broken people coming together, it doesn't make a whole relationship. It just brings a unhealthy

relationship that may not end well. Or you stay there to grow older and you end up being miserable or frustrated. I didn't want. And so I can remember the conversation that took place if I may share.

I remember having a dream and I woke up one morning and all I heard was he doesn't want to be marrying So well he calls me probably 30 minutes. I'm active duty military I'm someone on an assignment some training. He's there and that's it. Hey, so as you day. Yes, it's good I said, hey, I got questions for you. I had a dream. He said,

oh, here you go with these dreams. Now normally my dreams are up to par, like they're on point. They're

telling me something. And in fact, I can remember them when I wake up. That's the whole day. And I said, I had a dream you don't want to be married anymore. He said, yeah, I've been wanting to tell you what then wanting to tell you so okay so it's like yeah just I just

don't feel like this is working out anymore, you know, we could tell the kids later. So he just now, because I gave him the open door to it, he now shares that. And I remember, I said, okay, I'll be home on Friday, you come home and tell them, well, he didn't show up on friday to tell the kids he calls he said well we don't have to tell my no no no no no no no no no but you come home and tell them, well he didn't show up on Friday to tell the kids.

He calls and he's like, well we don't have to tell him, no, no, no, no, no, no,

but you're going to tell them you're not going to put this on me. And they happened very quickly

because I had been feeling it a long time and it kept coming, but this time it came in a dream. and I was like, you know what, let's just,

because I don't want to keep going through this.

I'm not going to be fighting for something

that someone does want to fight.

Has other people in his life and all of that?

And I knew this.

And I was like, I I said, I can't do this anymore either. So I said, okay, you came and told the kids they were upset, they're young, they were eight. They weren't, he wasn't, my middle son wasn't yet 13. And it was, it was a lot and trying to keep my mental stability, sanity, and help them with theirs. That was a lot to do.

It was a lot to go through. And again, mind you, I'm just coming back for my racks, so I'm dealing with all of that. It was a lot to deal with. But I will say yet again, we've been talking about it. I had to make a decision of who I wanted to become. And didn't know who that was gonna be because it was very scary. I've never been alone.

You got two incomes. You have all of that. Now you're responsible. And I start looking at stuff like, most of those bills are his anyway. So I went on the first tour or took away to pay off all of our bills, Lisa. I wasn't gonna leave him with anything. I went, I just wanted to cut clean slate. And at the point, you know, at that time, he said,

no, no, I don't want you to do that.

Let's try to work it out.

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