Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

When people aren't used to asking for things, they either announce it with a hard line that makes you wonder who this person is,

or mumble it casually under their breath like they're asking you to pass the catch up.

She did the latter. I could tell it was hard for her, but I wasn't thinking about her. I was thinking about me as usual.

She wanted a separation, but I didn't feel the weight of what that meant because I saw this as an opportunity to finally give her something, a chance to be a man, a good husband.

Something I hadn't been since we got married five years ago.

We were no longer young artists in Hollywood trying to make it, which was romantic and dreamy.

She was now traveling the world and working on movie sets,

while I was wearing dishwashing gloves, picking up dog shit, and accepting the failure

of my screenwriting career. In other words, about to hit my rock bottom. Besides, it's not like

she was asking for divorce. She just needed some space. She said it would make us better and I believed it.

Got it, her, done. This time no pushback, whatever you need. This was my opportunity

to be a better husband, a better man. The separation request quickly turned into,

Can you get out when I get home?

So I found a temporary room on Craigslist.

Then once I was out, she wanted a divorce, this time with firm lips and a hard line.

It was then that I realized there was no escape plan the entire time. This was no us getting better, only her getting away.

I left with nothing but my temperpudic pillow.

She got to bed.

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