So I'm all for relying. So I'm all for relying on people. I think it's very healthy to be in a position where you say to your partner, we are relying on each other. I can lean on you and I can count on you and vice versa.

But you don't want to feel like you're always relying on every fucking Tom, Dick and Harry

that's rolling on into your life, okay?

And also, when it comes to relying on someone, unless they're in your inner, inner circle

and you've built this level of, you know, this track record with them,

whether you call it trust or whatever,

you mainly want to be relying on people when you're relying on them to carry out something

that is already their responsibility to do so, because it's way more likely that that person

is going to follow through if it's already their responsibility, okay? But if you want to rely on them to do something that is your responsibility

or that only has to do with you, then you're potentially going to be disappointed.

There are some people that will always follow through and will always be there for you and you can

lean on them but a lot of the time that's not going to be the case and a prime example of this which

I've already mentioned is you getting over a heartbreak it's all well and good to say to someone

you know you owe me an explanation you owe me this you owe me that but the truth of the matter is

they don't and the reason that they don't owe you anything is because there are no repercussions for them, whether they

give it to you or whether they don't. That's how you know if something is for sure someone's

responsibility and when it's not. When something is someone's responsibility, if they don't

do the thing, there will be consequences. When something is not someone's responsibility, there will be no consequences. So for you

to say, you owe me this explanation, you owe me closure. No, they don't. Because at the end of the

day, they could say something to you and you're still not going to feel closure. The only person

that can give you closure is you. And you're asking them to fulfill something that is ultimately

your responsibility. And that is the healing process of a heartbreak.

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