Hi everybody. Thank you so much for listening to the women's dating and confidence podcast. Today I'm going to be answering a listener question about feeling nervous before your date and trying to get into the peak emotional

state that you need to be in before you go on your date. So the question was, hey, I have a

suggestion for your podcast dealing with predate nerves. This came up for me because before a date,

I try to get into that peak social state. Sometimes I go in wanting to talk a lot and I'm charismatic, lead the conversation, and sometimes I go in and I feel completely introverted on the date. And the girl has to lead the conversation. Thanks and his name. So it's actually sent by a guy who is a very loyal listener of the podcast,

and I think that's awesome because I just named it the Women's Deeding and Confidence

podcast because it's easier to talk to like one gender at a time. But this podcast is for

all genders. You're all welcome. So, um, let's talk about being nervous before the

date. Now, we could get into some really deep thought work about why you're feeling nervous and

what's coming up for you. But honestly, like, it's so normal to be nervous before the date.

I also got nervous before

first dates, like even the last ones that I've had. Like, I feel like it's normal, and I don't

really have a problem with that. And the other thing is, when I feel nervous before a date, I don't really categorize it as feeling nervous. I think I'm

like more excited or at least I label that feeling as being like excited and kind of giddy.

And so I feel like when people say that they're nervous before the first date, we're having the

same sensation in our body. We're just

labeling it differently. So I think I'm giddy and excited and want to know what's going to happen.

And somebody else can say like, oh, no, I'm nervous. This is bad. I shouldn't feel nervous. I'm

going to ruin the date. So the way that you interpret that feeling will have an impact on how you feel throughout the date as well and how you show up and how inhibited you are.

Now, the second part of the question is about getting into the emotional state that you need to be in in order to have a good date.

And now I know this listener, so I know that he's probably expecting me to say

something like, oh, it's okay. Like whatever state you're in, go with the flow, like be vulnerable,

authentic, accept you as you are. But honestly, I think it's important to be in a good emotional state before

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