I amma I ama I had a baby daddy relationship I spent time in a relationship with a married man I had to learn the skills and tools required to make my relationships healthy, fulfilling, and loving.

Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with I Heart Radio. I am I am Yamla, your host guide facilitator and today we are talking about your relationship with yourself.

What is your relationship like with yourself?

Is it good?

Are you growing it?

Are you learning it?

Hmm.

Whatever it is we are holding, thinking, believing, feeling about who we are going to show up in every single area of our life.

And it doesn't matter whether it's good or not so good.

I mean, if you look around the world today,

you see people doing not so good things and getting away with it and it's not because

there's some special power in the not so good it's because they believe what they're saying they believe what they're saying.

They believe what they're thinking.

And therefore, their relationship with themselves,

although dysfunctional as hell, it's working.

Because they don't doubt themselves.

They don't discourage themselves.

They don't abandon themselves.

I mean, I could go on and on and on.

So before we have one more conversation

about a husband or a girlfriend or a mother or mother-in-law,

I want us to look at, explore, examine, investigate whether or not we are current

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