Finding Self-Esteem & Self-Confidence
ShrinkChicks
Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT and Emmalee Bierly, LMFT
5 • 717 Ratings
🗓️ 27 October 2025
⏱️ 45 minutes
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Summary
This week on ShrinkChicks, Em and Jen dive into self-esteem and self-confidence: where they come from, how they differ, and what gets in the way of both. They explore how early experiences and family dynamics shape our sense of worth, how mastery and self-trust build confidence, and why rewriting old beliefs about ourselves is possible at any age.
Listener questions touch on healing from childhood wounds, rebuilding confidence after bullying, and raising kids with self-esteem rooted in effort, not perfection. Em and Jen also share tangible ways to strengthen self-trust, quiet self-doubt, and stop letting other people’s opinions dictate your worth. Plus, in Dear Em & Jen, they tackle a listener’s question about “boss babe” culture and why it’s completely okay for work to just be work.
Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 4:20 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.
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| 0:00.0 | What are some real ways to become more confident and have less self-doubt? |
| 0:03.1 | Here's a really good one. |
| 0:03.9 | Yeah. |
| 0:04.5 | I like the phrase, do dangerous things carefully. Let's say, I want to try a new class, but I'm very nervous to do it. Okay. So what would be a way to do something dangerous, like trying something new? Carefully. Okay. So I'm going to go to the new class. I'm going to know if I need to leave. |
| 0:21.0 | Here are the things I do, right? |
| 0:22.6 | You give yourself a plan if you need. I'm going to show up and do the best that I can. I don't need to be the number one person in this workout class. I don't need to be the person who sits in front of class and ask a million questions. Whatever it is, do dangerous things carefully. |
| 0:46.9 | Welcome back to another episode of shrink chicks. |
| 0:52.1 | Take a seat on our virtual therapy couch and get ready to learn all about well you. |
| 0:53.2 | I'm Emily Bearley. |
| 0:54.5 | And I'm Jennifer Chakin. |
| 0:58.6 | And we're both licensed, marriage and family therapist and relationship experts. |
| 1:05.8 | We're the owners and founders of the therapy group, a nationwide psychotherapy practice with down-to-earth therapists just like us. Your session is starting. |
| 1:07.4 | So get ready to know yourself and grow yourself. |
| 1:13.4 | Hi, Jen. |
| 1:14.5 | Hi, M. |
| 1:15.6 | And hi, everyone. |
| 1:16.8 | Welcome back to shrink chicks. |
| 1:18.8 | So today we're going to dive into a topic that hits home for so many of us, self-esteem |
| 1:22.7 | and self-confidence. |
| 1:24.2 | Why do we struggle with it? |
| 1:25.5 | And how do we build it? |
| 1:26.9 | And why does it sometimes feel like a |
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