Hi, it's Andy here, and welcome to Radio Headspace until Wednesday morning.

So a few days back, I was chatting to a good friend of mine, we were chatting about

how our parents are doing, amidst everything that's going on in the world right now, and

he was saying kind of how happy his dad was in his marriage, but he had up until a point

in his life thought that he just wasn't very good at relationships, because the relationships

hadn't worked out, the marriages hadn't worked out, his assumption was that he just wasn't

very good at relationships, and then he met his now wife, long time ago now, and it turned

out that it wasn't really the relationships that he wasn't very good at, it's just he

hadn't found the right person.

And it reminded me of a philosophy, a way of thinking, from the monastery and the tradition

in which I trained as a monk, there's this idea of finding one's activity in the world,

and if we can find our activity, then we will automatically feel a sense of ease and

flow in our life, it's as though we're sort of going with the current rather than against

it.

We get obliged to so many different areas of life, there's certain relationships, and

we will have all been in those relationships where we may want to be in them, but it just

for whatever reason it feels like we're constantly battling against the tide, and there will

be others where it just feels natural, feels easy, feels right, and in the same way I think

that shows up in other areas in our life.

We might look at aspects of our life, whether it's our work life or social or other things

that we're involved in, and we may feel like we're not good at something.

And that can be a few things, it may be that we haven't given it enough time, but it

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