Welcome to the Awesome Marriage Podcast, a place for honest conversations about marriage and practical advice on how to have a God-honoring awesome marriage.

I am your podcast producer and co-host Christina Dodson.

On the show will be your host, Dr. Kim Kimberling.

Dr. Kim is a marriage counselor and has been married for over 40 years.

His passion is to help you strengthen your most

intimate relationship. No one wants to be the couple that's always fighting in front of their kids.

We've all heard stories of grown children not wanting to get married because all their

parents ever did was fight when they were younger. But I'm also sure you've heard stories of

people whose parents quote unquote never fought and how that set them up for some really unrealistic

expectations in their own marriage. So what is the balance? That's what we're going to be discussing

today. Dr. Kim, what are some of the negative outcomes of fighting in front of our kids? Why should we

not fight in front of them? Probably a ton of reasons. One, a kid is going to interpret different than you are.

I mean, you think of a kid, just in what we know of the brain and when it matures and what they're

able to comprehend and process at certain times. And so you don't know how, and I've had so many

kids make decisions because of something heard or seen their parents do or a fight

at a young age because of the information they got. And a lot of times the kids will feel like,

say, earlier in the evening, when the parents got mad at the kid, then you hear the kid parents

fighting. The child thinks they're fighting because of me and all I mean so many babies they don't understand

I think the fighting scares them I've talked to so many kids that they go and find they'll go in a

closet they'll go put a blanket over their head anything so they don't have to hear the parents fight

especially when it gets into some escalation like we talked about in the podcast earlier this week

and I think it makes them insecure. They need to know

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