Welcome to the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

My name is Lisa Abramano.

I am a life coach, bestselling author, YouTube vlogger, meditation teacher, an expert in the field of codependency and narcissistic abuse.

I am a believer in the power of an organized mind.

My aim is to help people learn what it means to live above the veil of consciousness

rather than living a reactive life. May your heart feel blessed, your mind feel expanded, and your spirit find hope

as you spend time with me here at the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

So today we're going to be talking about the problem with codependency and our ability to set boundaries.

So let's just, you know, take a deep breath.

Let's just settle in, just relax our mind, and let's just think about what it is and what the consequences of codependency, some of them, what some

consequences can be. When we are codependent, we lack a healthy sense of self. In most of the cases, codependency can be tied to a fear of

abandonment, and the way I look at that, that's nothing to be ashamed of. It's just a fact.

So if you have a fear of dogs, because when you were three, you were bit by a dog, and now you're 33, and you have this natural innate fear of dogs, even if you don't want to have this visceral, you know, stress response reaction to seeing a dog, even if you don't want to have it, you do.

So your mind has recorded, in a very necessary way, a painful event so that you never forget that you could get hurt by a dog in the future.

And now, below the veil of consciousness, your brain is being triggered by the sound of a barking

dog or the side of a dog.

It could be a tiny little dog.

It doesn't matter.

It could be your sister's little chihuahua that is the sweetest thing ever.

It doesn't matter.

Below the veil of consciousness, because your brain is like a cell phone and has come

with factory settings that you are not in control of and your brain has been

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