Welcome to the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

My name is Lisa A. Romano.

I am a life coach, best-selling author, YouTube vlogger, meditation teacher, an expert in the field of codependency and narcissistic abuse.

I am a believer in the power of an organized mind.

My aim is to help people learn what it means to live above the veil of consciousness, rather

than living a reactive life.

May your heart feel blessed, your mind feel expanded, and your spirit find hope, as you

spend time with me here at the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

So today we're going to be talking about the types of mind games that narcissists play,

that they don't want you to figure out. So number one is the fake out. They fake empathy.

They get you to drop your guard. They tell you their secrets or you believe that they're telling you their secrets. And what they really want to do is they want you to drop your guard, they tell you their secrets or you believe that they're telling you

their secrets. And what they really want to do is they want you to tell them your secrets.

And so they fake empathy, they get you to believe that they care about your feelings. And

what's really happening is they're gaining your trust. And they're gaining their trust through this fake out,

through faking empathy. And in time, if you stay in a relationship long enough with a narcissist,

what you'll realize is that this comes back to bite you in the butt. When you confront the

narcissist, when they start to feel like you are like, you know, confronting them

and they're losing power over you. That's when they'll remind you of something that you shared

with them that's embarrassing, that might be shameful, or, you know, they'll use this as a tool to

cripple you when they need it the most or to embarrass you in front of other people. And this is achieved through the fake out, through faking empathy and getting you to trust them.

Number two is the one-up game.

So narcissists need to feel in control and powerful over others.

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