Hi everybody. Welcome to the women's dating and confidence podcast. My name is Amber, and today we're

going to be talking about the fear of feelings. Before I get into that, I want to let you know that I have a free guide. It's called

copy and paste texts for when he's pulling away or acting flaky. It's eight pages long. That's a

page for each individual situation where he might be pulling away or acting flaky that come up most

commonly with the women that I work with. And you can find it in the show notes or on my website, which is ambergrubman.com.

So let's talk about the fear of feelings.

My coaching background and what originally got me into coaching was seeking solutions for my dating life and confidence, hence

women's dating and confidence podcast. And it was very action oriented. That's what I wanted to know.

I wanted to know what to text him when he's pulling away or acting flaky. I wanted to know what to say, where to meet men,

what to do, like the actual action steps that I needed to take to create the dating life that I

wanted. It wasn't until later when I started working with Dr. Aziz that I started learning more

about meditating and sitting down and feeling your feelings

and just noticing where they are in your body and that kind of stuff.

And at first it really didn't resonate with me because my mindset was like,

why are we sitting here feeling our feelings when we could be out there talking to cute guys?

So I really didn't understand the value of it.

And then I read a book called Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.

And I thought this was a quote from the book, but then I couldn't find it.

So I'm actually not sure if this is a quote from her,

but I thought it was. But anyways, a big part of what she teaches in the book is all of our fears

are fears of feelings. I think she said that. It may have also been Tara Brock from radical

acceptance. But anyways, what that taught me is that anything that

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