Hi everybody, welcome to the women's dating and confidence podcast. My name is Amber, and today

we're going to talk about imposter syndrome and dating. Before we get started with that, I want to let you know that I created a

free guide. It's called copy and paste texts for when he's pulling away or acting flaky. And the

link for that is going to be in the show notes. So imposter syndrome is something that usually

applies to work, but I actually feel like this really applies to dating as well. So I'm going to

read you the definition and you'll see how this can relate to dating as well. So a random definition

I found on the internet is imposter syndrome can be defined as a collection of feelings of inadequacy

that persist despite evident success. Imposters

suffer from chronic self-doubt and a sense of intellectual fraudulence that overrides

any feelings of success or external proof of their competence. So the short version is that

imposter syndrome is that feeling,, for example, if you get

hired for a new job and they hired you because they think you're competent and talented and

able to do the work. And as soon as you start that job, you start feeling so much anxiety and

fear and self-doubt that they're going to figure out that you actually can't do the job and that

you're actually not as intelligent as they thought and you feel almost like you put on a front

or you trick them into thinking that and it's only a matter of time until they find out the real

you is actually not able to handle the job. So I wanted to relate this to dating because we can actually have a really similar experience

when we start dating somebody new.

So you meet somebody, you're dating, maybe you're even in a relationship, and you start

to think, wow, like this person is really amazing and you feel like maybe they don't

realize like that I actually have all of these flaws or it's only a matter of time until they

figure out the real me like that I get insecure sometimes or that I'm jealous sometimes or that I actually

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