Hey guys, time for fan mail Fridays where I'll be answering your questions and dropping

some knowledge and tactics to help you kick the weekend off, right?

If you're new to the Art of Charm podcast, this is not a great place to start.

Most of our content is much more in depth, much longer formats to check out the best of

at theartofcharm.com slash best or the fundamentals toolbox at theartofcharm.com slash toolbox.

All right, let's cut to it.

This one comes from Ian, a lump of the art of charm.

He says the second segment on Friday was spot on last Friday.

This guy who said that he was married and no longer needed the art of charm stuff or at least

most of it, Ian says delivering the best me I could be to my wife was on the top of my

list when you and I talked about bootcamp.

When I started thinking about coming, he was clear to me that I was not doing that and

not really living up to my obligation to make her happy.

I'd become very isolated from anything social and by soiling myself, I, oh, that's, sorry,

you can leave that in, but he actually said, by siloing myself, I almost guaranteed that

the relationship would not continue to grow.

And more importantly, I was not reading her well or responding in ways that were appropriate

to make her feel like I was helping to support the relationship.

As you correctly pointed out, this is the most important relationship a married man has.

If you can't get behind the idea that your wife deserves a you that is striving to grow

and be better and have fun, no matter how good you already are or think you are, then

you're definitely not doing your part in the relationship.

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