Fan Mail Friday #65 | Sex and the Single Superhero

The Art of Charm

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🗓️ 3 June 2016

⏱️ 53 minutes

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Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Kimberly Seltzer (as featured in our Toolbox for Women episodes) joins us for this one, so let's cut to it! In this episode: Dating when you've been diagnosed with herpes can be tough. When is the time right to tell prospective partners? Too early, and you may be seen as presumptuous. But if you wait until things start getting serious, they may be angry you didn't tell them sooner. How do you make the call? A listener from Jordan's appearance on the Sex Nerd Sandra podcast writes in to ask for an alternative to the "just be yourself" advice usually given to someone who wants to approach an attractive stranger. If you're used to being a pushover, what do you do when your so-called friends resist the boundaries you're trying to set (as discussed with Kimberly Seltzer in episode 499)? Sometimes love is unrequited for good reason. But what do you do when "the one who got away" briefly returns the sentiment only to go right back to their abusive spouse? Are you right to feel like the perpetual second choice? A stunning superhero asks: "Is it possible to be too attractive?" Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-65-sex-and-the-single-superhero/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hey, it's time for fan mail Friday. I'm your host Jordan Harbinger. I'm here with producer Jason
0:04.8	to Phillipo and Kim Celter again today. We'll be answering your questions and dropping some
0:09.4	knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off, right? If you're new to the Art of
0:13.4	Charm Podcast, this is not where you should start. Most of our content is more in-depth
0:18.4	than longer formats. So check out the best of at the Art of Charm.com slash best or the fundamentals
0:23.7	toolbox at the Art of Charm.com slash toolbox. That's where we've got the fundamentals of non-verbal
0:28.9	communication and body language, negotiation, attraction, networking, and everything else we
0:33.6	teach here at the Art of Charm. We'll send it all to your inbox if you text Charm that's C-A-J-R-M-E-D
0:40.1	to 3-3-4-4-4 or just go to theartofcharm.com. All right, let's cut to it.
0:45.6	Hi there. I listen to your show every week. You guys always have great content and thank you so
0:49.6	much for all that you share. So I have an embarrassing question for you that I'm sure other listeners
0:54.2	might struggle with as well. What do you think about someone who is dating with a herpes
0:58.3	diagnosis? I've always been the type of person to be in a relationship before ever doing the deed,
1:03.3	so it definitely isn't a thing where I had all these one-night stands. I have no idea when or
1:08.0	where it came from or how long I've had it for. I never had any symptoms to be worried about.
1:13.1	Then one day I had a small rash on my lower back and my friend thought that it might be herpes
1:18.1	and I had to find out. I went to the doctor and got blood work, turns out I have type one and type
1:23.7	two herpes. All I ever wanted in my life is to have a family of my own one day, but this sure
1:29.0	dampened my hope. I dated two more guys since I found out five years ago and told them about it
1:34.3	before sex happened, but I found that it caused me to really lower my standards and put up with
1:39.1	more crap because I didn't feel that I was worth being with a good guy. I've been single again
1:44.4	for about a year and I'm totally okay with it, but at the same time I would like a good relationship
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