Hey, time for fan mail Friday where I'll be answering your questions and dropping some

knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off, right?

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and nonverbal communication, attraction, negotiation, networking, and everything else we teach

here at the Art of Charm. Alright, let's cut to it.

This comes from Sean. He says, I've been dating the same girl for a year and a half. I've got a

long history of depression, anxiety, and I've three learning disorders. I'm fine by the way. I'm smart

and learning disorders go unnoticed. From September 2014 until two months ago, I was incredibly

approval seeking, controlling, manipulative, and smothering. My girlfriend became my therapist and

I did every damn thing to push her away. I've never been more aware of that than I am now, and you

have helped very much in the past couple months. About two months ago, I caught her in bed with another

man. We continued to try to work it out from there. She said, I pushed her out of loving her. She

had a good friend die before that, and she felt she couldn't come to me and hadn't been happy with

me for months leading up to that. Okay, that's a huge batch of red flags right there. But anyway,

and he says he continues, but it seemed that leading up to that and that finally happening in

the aftermath, we were in way over our heads. She finally took the initiative to take a break

without actually separating officially, whatever that means, and agreeing to be exclusive.

Rather, she pushed the move and got that ball rolling so she could get her life and head and

social bearings back as well as focus on her schooling and for me to get my stuff back together

and get back to the guy I was when she met me. Okay, let me pause right here. This is what she's

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