Welcome to the art of charm. I'm your host Jordan Harbinger. I'm here with producer Jason to Philipo here at the art of charm. We may not have all the answers but we certainly have some of the questions today on fan mail Friday.

Those questions come from you and then of course we try not to laugh slash cry try not to be too judgey we try to give you some good old tough love or horse player advice whatever's needed in the moments.

And I am off enjoying myself in Australia. So I'm super jet lagged and try not to show it. However, I do enjoy a little fan mail Friday and we wouldn't miss it for the world would we.

Some of us have to stay behind and work while you're off frollicking in the non-surf because you don't go in the water.

The benefits of being the boss is afraid of the water. Alright. Yeah, you know I gotta say Australia is a great place I could.

I just wish it were closer. Yeah, yeah, never been never been would like to go I will be living vicariously through your Instagram.

There you go Jordan Harbinger on Instagram. That's right at Jordan Harbinger on Instagram. You can I don't take pictures of my food I promise you that but above that the bar is still low just like everybody else on Instagram.

I do post videos there about things that are relevant to AOC topics though so I'll teach you some productivity stuff or some body language stuff or some non-verbal communication stuff but let's be honest 80% of it is like oh my god look at this dumb thing I found and took a photo of like a person being stupid in a way that's hilarious or a funny sign. So what the internet was built for.

It's not too high brow. Yeah, exactly. Let's cut to it. Hey guys, I listened to the show all the time and really enjoy your insights.

Every so often I run into a celebrity or pro athlete and I never know what to say and not sound like an idiot. How do I say hi and strike up a one or two sentence conversation.

I usually end up saying something like hi I'm Mike. I'm a big fan and they say thanks with an awkward silence and move on to the next person.

I don't expect to be lifelong buddies with these busy people but I don't want to be just another awkward fan type person. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks Mike.

So I meet celebrities all the time. Surprise throughout the course of work or just at events that I'm at or something like that and you got a treat them normally.

They know who they are and they probably don't care if you know who they are and it can come up later that you're a fan or you know something about their work if it makes sense in the conversation.

Saying you're a fan right off the bat that puts you in a bucket. So there's kind of these different tiers of people that they know or different buckets of people that they know people who treat them as if they're famous which they are people who treat them poorly because they're famous because they're insecure and they don't want to be like oh you're famous they you know haters and in trolls and then there's kind of everyone else and follow somewhere on a spectrum when I interact with celebrities.

I have very normal conversations with them and if their work comes up I might reference it which means more to them at that time because we're already chatting we're already buddy up or see it next to each other on an airplane and then they find out I like their work as well.

It actually means something at that point before it didn't mean anything I'm a huge fan okay of course you are a famous person a basketball player. It means something if I can reference. Oh I've read one of your books and I really like this part. Oh okay that's more meaningful then.

Oh my god you're famous I don't know what to do right now I need a paper bag. You don't have to pretend you don't know who they are but it shouldn't be the entire focus of the conversation or the relationship.

So if you're seated next to them on a plane you don't have to be like oh my god is Michael Jackson well actually that's a terrible example.

That would be a really creepy plane ride. I feel horrible now Jason. You don't have to say oh my god it's Mike row I love that show.

You know you can just say oh Mike row right on nice to meet you a big fan of your work. It's fine if you do that it's not ideal if that's the first thing that comes to your brain but you can sit down and go hey I'm Jordan nice to meet you Mike right on.

Oh yeah I think I'm familiar with some of your stuff and then you can talk and then you can talk about it later but don't start going on a diet track.

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