Fan Mail Friday #128 | Beware of Insecure Security

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🗓️ 18 August 2017

⏱️ 24 minutes

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Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode: Is it possible you carry yourself in a way that raises red flags for social gatekeepers? A party is not a dissertation defense. What would be a better career path than mechanic for someone with a natural skillset with people? Why don't we have the same sponsors as other shows? #VanLife: It turns out living in a van down by the river isn't just for Chris Farley anymore. But is it for you? [Related: Episode 557 with Joshua Fields Millburn of The Minimalists] Jordan performs spoken word: If the Man in the Mirror Documentary of the Week: Jiro Dreams of Sushi Quick shoutouts to Joshua Henry -- who plays Aaron Burr on the Hamilton tour -- and Dr. Jerry Altman on a medical mission in Hawassa, Ethiopia! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Check out Jordan's (@TheArtofCharm) other show: The Forbes List, and Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/fmf128/ Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Considering the benefits of fasting? Check out The Complete Guide to Fasting: How to Heal Your Body through Intermittent, Alternate-Day, and Extended Fasting with Dr. Jason Fung at Ben Greenfield Fitness here. Take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text AOC to 38470. We'll take you step by step to becoming better at making personal and professional connections, becoming a better networker, increasing your personal social capital and charisma. This is for both men and women! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming!

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Art of Charm. I'm your host, Jordan Harbinger. I'm here with producer
0:12.9	Jason DeFilippo. Here at the Art of Charm, we may not have all the answers, but we certainly
0:17.4	have some of the questions. Of course, this is Fanmail Friday, so those questions today
0:20.7	they come from you. Alright, let's get right to it.
0:23.4	Hi, Jordan and AOC. I've noticed that certain people are more likely to experience certain
0:28.3	things. I've never stopped at airports to get a pat down while I have a friend who's
0:32.4	110 pound, 5 foot 7, average looking girl that's always being stopped. I have a hard time
0:38.0	with social gatekeepers. Bouncers really don't like me. I walk up normal, stand in line,
0:43.7	if need be, ID and cash in hand, yet I still get a hard time. My boss likes me, but the
0:49.0	guy below him who I report to just doesn't seem on my side. I think I'm very average looking,
0:54.6	170 pounds, 6 foot white guy. I get mistaken for other people all the time. I've listened
0:59.4	to your show for over a year and have written in a few times. I care about self development,
1:03.6	being myself, and really just being respectful and decent dude. Any idea what could be going
1:08.6	on here? Is it possible I carry myself in a way that raises red flags for social gatekeepers?
1:13.9	Thanks for all you do, average Adam.
1:16.2	Actually, this is, this isn't interesting for me because I both have been this guy and
1:20.9	I also was a bouncer for four years in college.
1:24.0	Did you kick yourself out of the bars? I kicked myself out of the bars all the time. Yeah,
1:27.9	I wish I could have kicked myself out of the bars some of those times, man. Bouncer is a terrible
1:33.8	boring jobless at the time. Look, what's happening most likely here? And this is from the perspective
1:40.1	of both that guy and bouncer sort of mixed together. There's something that's triggering most
1:45.1	likely a bouncer's insecurity. Look, Bouncer will keep you out if they feel like you are dangerous
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