Fan Mail Friday #118 | What Dat Mean?

The Art of Charm

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🗓️ 9 June 2017

⏱️ 27 minutes

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Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode: How do you overcome the need for external validation in a good relationship that's suffering from the fallout of past bad relationships? What's the best way to prepare for the death of a terminally ill loved one when you've still got a little time to spend with them and basic 21st century technology? A ten-year podcast listener and AoC Bootcamp alumnus weighs in on life changes three years since attending. Is it more cringeworthy to admit when we don't know something, or to pause a conversation mid-flow to go look it up on Google? Make America smarter? What dat mean? Wondering how to leave a voice message that will actually get you a response? Here's an example. Is it reasonable to expect an honest answer from your ex about where your relationship went wrong? It really depends on why you're asking. Shoutouts to Theresa Kwayi and Chris Gonzales at Harley Davidson and Adil B. from Bangalore! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com! Check out Jordan's (@TheArtofCharm) other show: The Forbes List, and Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Wonder what can happen when strangers get legally married the moment they first meet? Tune in to a new episode of Married at First Sight every Thursday at 9/8c on Lifetime! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/fmf118/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Welcome to The Art of Charm.
0:10.0	I'm your host, Jordan Harbenter.
0:11.6	I'm here with producer Jason DeFilippo.
0:13.9	Here at The Art of Charm, we may not have all the answers, but we certainly have some
0:16.8	of the questions.
0:17.8	And today on Fan Mill Friday, those questions come from you.
0:20.2	All right, let's cut right to it.
0:21.6	Hey guys, in the beginning of my relationship, my boyfriend often needed reassurance about
0:25.9	my feelings for him since he was battling through some insecurities.
0:29.5	For a few months, those faded, but now I'm the one that feels insecure.
0:33.2	When he would open up to me about how he was feeling, I always made sure to hear him out
0:36.9	and support him in any way that I could.
0:39.3	When I have always my need for reassurance, he listens and does what he can to make me feel
0:43.2	better, but I only ever feel better for a few days.
0:46.6	I notice I feel most insecure when we're in a slight dip in the passion area of the relationship.
0:51.4	We're not intimate as much and he doesn't tell me I'm beautiful or pretty or amazing
0:54.9	quite as often as he usually does.
0:57.3	I know that relationships are always cycling in terms of passion and I have no issue with
1:01.3	that.
1:02.3	My issue is that I clearly need external validation through him showering me with attention,
1:07.0	either verbally or through touch.
1:09.3	As soon as I don't feel wanted 24-7, I get insecure, especially when I don't feel desired
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