Episode 73: Do You Ever “Owe” Sex To Your Partner?

Pillow Talks

Vanessa & Xander Marin

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.8 • 2.2K Ratings

🗓️ 13 October 2022

⏱️ 53 minutes

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Summary

Have you ever had your partner initiate sex and thought to yourself, “I should probably just do it because I’ve said ‘no’ so much”? Or has your partner been the one reminding you of your track record of responses?

Or maybe you’re the one wishing your partner would say “yes” a whole lot more often.

Spoiler alert: You should never feel pressured (or pressure yourself) to do something you don’t want to do with your own body. But this issue can get surprisingly complex. Intimacy is one of the foundations of a relationship, and it’s understandable for partners to have needs. How can we honor what our partner wants, while also staying true to ourself and our boundaries?

Let us walk you through how to identify the real issue in all this gray area and some simple ways to tackle this touchy subject.

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0:00.0	When you start peeling back those layers, this question starts to get very complex,
0:05.6	very nuanced, and there is so much great area.
0:15.5	Hello and welcome to the Pillotox podcast.
0:18.7	We're your host, Vanessa.
0:20.1	And Zander Marin.
0:21.4	I'm a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience.
0:24.4	And I'm just a regular dude.
0:26.0	We share the ups and downs in our relationship while giving you
0:29.0	step-by-step techniques for improving yours.
0:31.7	Make sure you subscribe for your weekly double date
0:34.1	full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice,
0:38.1	hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on
0:41.4	behind closed bedroom doors and so much more.
0:44.5	It's the sex education you wish you'd had.
0:48.8	Today we are tackling a surprisingly thorny question,
0:53.4	which is if you are in a long-term relationship,
0:56.8	is it your responsibility to have sex with your partner?
1:00.6	Do you owe it to them?
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