Welcome to Just Break Up, the podcast about love, heartbreak, and all the relationship advice you don't want to hear.

My name is Sierra de Mulder.

And I'm Sam Blackwell.

And today we're going to answer a letter from somebody who is openly discussing having an affair with a former affair partner.

But before we begin, we just want to give you our Surgeon General's warning, which is that Sierra and I are not licensed mental health practitioners.

That's correct. We are not professionals. We are not trained in any of this. So please

take our advice as you see fit. We're only here to offer our humble musings to hopefully shed

some understanding and maybe some laughs about the incredibly rewarding, but mostly confusing

experience that is love.

All right. Let's get into today's letter. Today's letter comes from Daisy delusional, whose pronouns

are she-her, who's writing from The Void. Dear Sam and Sierra, I tried writing to you so many

times before and I never felt like my problems were worthy enough of your advice. This time,

I feel feel I will

certainly send the letter though. I, she her, 25, am in a happy monogamous relationship of four

years with my partner, Mike, he him, 28. This is my first boyfriend and I've been thinking about

talking to him about an open relationship for a while. I'm interested in new experiences and

also a little, very much by curious. I've been wondering for a while. I'm interested in new experiences and also a little, very much by curious.

I've been wondering for a while how to start that conversation and gathering courage to do so.

Now, this is where it gets complicated.

By chance I've reconnected with an old flame Tom, he, him, 28.

Four years ago, shortly before I started dating my partner, we'd been meeting in secret

behind Tom's girlfriend's back. They had been together for eight years now in 2025. I knew

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