All right, so for the last two weeks on the podcast, we've had a lot of fun because we've been taking a little bit of a jaunt through the active marriage and which was the book on Christian sex that was given to people of my generation when they got married and it scarred me for life and we had a lot of fun looking back on why as I read quotes to Becca and Connor and got their opinions and their reactions, lots of fun.

And now I thought that I would take another step back and ask a broader question.

Because this is something that Rebecca and I have noticed.

Just for context we are in the middle of frantically writing our new book, The Great Sex Rescue,

which will be out next spring, so in about a year, it's due in the publisher in May.

And so we've been reading all of these wonderful Christian sex books that we never read before,

just to see what they said so that we could get some of the ideas of how women

got some of the ideas about sex that we have and we've noticed a theme haven't we

Rebecca we have And that is that when Christian books are

written by men they tend to be quite explicit. Yes. And now this is coming from the people who wrote the blog post how to find your wife's g spot and all ended the all about directions podcast so like we're okay with talking about real things absolutely and yeah and I give my girl talk around

North America I I do an anonymous Q&A session in that talk where people write in the

most explicit questions I don't screen the

questions. I read them right then and there and I answer them. I will say any

words that you want me to. I will I will talk about vibrators and sex toys and orgasms and all of that stuff no

problem whatsoever but there's just something that is kind of icky with the way that a lot of these books talk.

Yeah, it really is because it's very different to talk about explicit things in a more general manner

versus giving someone explicit instructions on how they should personally do something explicit to themselves or to their spouse.

So I'm going to give you two examples.

Okay, so Becca, you have not actually read the book sheet music by Kevin.

No, I haven't.

Okay, so I am going to read to you, so you've never heard this, and I'm going to read to you.

Unless it's one of the quotes you've already read to me no I have never heard this.

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