Episode 538: High Performing Women and Why They Lose Attraction in Relationships When They Lead

Habits and Hustle

Jen Cohen

Entrepreneurship, Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Business

4.5 • 818 Ratings

🗓️ 20 March 2026

⏱️ 11 minutes

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Summary

At a certain level of success, dating stops feeling simple. When you are disciplined and used to leading in every room you walk into, attraction is no longer just chemistry. It becomes about polarity, power, and whether you genuinely respect and admire the person you are with. This Habits & Hustle episode breaks down the psychology behind dominance and attraction, and why some driven women lose interest the moment they feel like they are making every decision and carrying the mental load. We also get into the idea that equal doesn’t always create desire and why many high-performing women are drawn to men who are stronger, decisive, and confident enough to lead. If you are building at a high level and realizing that leading everything is killing attraction, tune in. What’s Discussed (00:38) Why some high-performing women want men “better” than them (01:58) Attraction to strength, success, and dominance in relationships (02:45) Why women lose attraction when they feel superior (05:05) Settling for easier partners vs real desire (07:05) Success shrinking the dating pool for ambitious women (07:46) How a confident man softens an alpha woman (11:21) Decision fatigue and wanting a partner who just handles it Thank you to our sponsors: Rho Nutrition: Try Rho Nutrition today and experience the difference of Liposomal Technology. Use code JEN20 for 20% OFF everything at https://rhonutrition.com/discount/jen20. Prolon: Prolon is offering listeners 30% off sitewide plus a $40 bonus gift when you subscribe to their 5-Day Program! Just visit https://prolonlife.com/JENNIFERCOHEN and use the code JENNIFERCOHEN to claim your discount and your bonus gift. Therasage: Visit Therasage.com and use code JEN to get 15% off your order. Your skin deserves this level of care. Air Doctor: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code HUSTLE to get UP TO $300 off today! AirDoctor comes with a 30-day money back guarantee, plus a 3-year warranty — an $84 value, free! Magic Mind: Head over to www.magicmind.com/jen and use code Jen at checkout. Momentous: Ready to try supplements that actually do what they claim? Head to livemomentous.com and use code JEN for 35% off your first subscription. Manna Vitality: Try it now by using the code Jennifer20 at mannavitality.com. Amp fit If you’re ready to make consistency a habit without sacrificing your sanity, check out joinamp.com/jen. Find more from Jen: Website: https://jennifercohen.com Instagram: @therealjencohen Books: https://jennifercohen.com/books Speaking: https://jennifercohen.com/speaking-engagement

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0:00.0	Hi, guys. It's Tony Robbins. You're listening to Habits and Hustle. Crush it.
0:06.4	I have to talk about something that I saw that I was so excited to bring up on this podcast.
0:13.8	I saw this video where this woman was saying that women need men that are better than them,
0:20.6	who are smarter than them, more successful than
0:24.2	them, fitter than them, more inspiring than them, more of everything. And the reason is because
0:31.6	that's what we would naturally be attracted to. I got to tell you something, I actually totally
0:36.8	agree with her, 100%. Like, I believe, like you something, I actually totally agree with her.
0:38.3	100%. Like, I believe, like, a guy has to be alpha, double alpha, or else I will eat him for
0:44.6	breakfast. And that's just the way it's going to be. And when I was watching this, I thought to myself,
0:49.7	wow, this is probably one of the most controversial videos or it probably would be a really
0:57.1	controversial video because of the time we're living in.
1:00.9	Wait, really?
1:01.5	I think so.
1:02.7	Because it kind of feels like it's like how people thought 50 years ago or 100 years ago.
1:09.1	Yeah.
1:09.8	But I think that we're living in a time that we're unable to say what we
1:13.9	say things that we don't actually really believe in our heads or that's actually
1:18.9	really human nature.
1:20.7	But the truth of the matter is, it's 100% true.
1:24.0	Like I do want a guy who is better than me, who is smarter, fitter, faster,
1:30.1	stronger, taller, more inspiring, more successful, richer. I mean, all the things, right?
1:37.6	Like, I don't want to be the one that is superior because it's hard for me to like be attracted to someone who I feel I'm more
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