Episode 537: Patti Stanger: Why Modern Dating Is Broken, Red Flags, and the Commitment Crisis

Habits and Hustle

Jen Cohen

Entrepreneurship, Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Business

4.5 • 818 Ratings

🗓️ 17 March 2026

⏱️ 84 minutes

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Modern dating feels harder than it should. With more access, more options, and more ways to connect than ever before, commitment feels rarer, and follow through drops the minute effort is required. We dive deeper into this in the Habits & Hustle podcast with Patti Stanger. We also chat about commitment behavior, power dynamics in modern relationships, and the difference between high standards and self-sabotage. Patti Stanger is the star and executive producer of Bravo’s hit docu-series The Millionaire Matchmaker®. She is a third-generation matchmaker and founder of The Millionaire’s Club, launched in 2000. She is the author of Become Your Own Matchmaker, Find Your Match, Seal the Deal, and Raise Your Desirability Factor. What’s Discussed (06:30) How dating apps and technology shift power dynamics and commitment behavior (10:31) Why men date multiple women and choose based on self-respect signals (15:03) The biggest red flags, including never married by late 50s (31:35) Why men hesitate to approach women post-COVID and post-MeToo (45:35) How social media and filters distort attraction and expectations (50:23) Why younger generations struggle more with commitment and social skills (56:59) Why curated gatherings, hobbies, and clubs beat swiping apps (1:06:27) The biology of oxytocin and why sex changes attachment dynamics Thank you to our sponsors: Rho Nutrition: Try Rho Nutrition today and experience the difference of Liposomal Technology. Use code JEN20 for 20% OFF everything at https://rhonutrition.com/discount/jen20. Prolon: Get 30% off sitewide plus a $40 bonus gift when you subscribe to their 5-Day Program! Just visit https://prolonlife.com JENNIFERCOHEN and use code JENNIFERCOHEN to claim your discount and your bonus gift. Therasage: Head over to therasage.com and use code Be Bold for 15% off Air Doctor: Go to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code HUSTLE40 for up to $300 off and a 3-year warranty on air purifiers. Magic Mind: Head over to www.magicmind.com/jen and use code Jen at checkout. Momentous: Shop this link and use code Jen for 20% off Manna Vitality: Visit mannavitality.com and use code JENNIFER20 for 20% off your order Amp fit is the perfect balance of tech and training, designed for people who do it all and still want to feel strong doing it. Check it out at joinamp.com/jen Find more from Jen: Website: https://jennifercohen.com Instagram: @therealjencohen Books: https://jennifercohen.com/books Speaking: https://jennifercohen.com/speaking-engagement Find more from Patti Stanger: Website: https://pattiknows.com https://millionairesclub123.com Instagram: @pattistanger X: @pattistanger

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0:00.0	Hi guys, it's Tony Robbins. You're listening to Habits and Hustle. Crush it.
0:06.7	Today's guests is the unapologetic, straight-talking queen of matchmaking, Patty Stanger.
0:12.5	You probably know her as a star and creator of the hit Bravo show, The Millionaire Matchmaker,
0:18.0	where she spent over a decade helping some of the world's most successful and often
0:22.4	most difficult singles find love. Patty built an empire by telling people the truth they didn't
0:27.9	always want to hear about dating, relationships, and what actually what it takes to attract
0:33.4	the right partner. She's matched hundreds of couples, written bestselling books, launched her own dating platform, and became the most partner. She's matched hundreds of couples, written best-selling books, launched her own dating platform, and became the most recognizable voice in modern matchmaking.
0:44.8	Today, we're talking about the psychology of attraction, the biggest mistakes high
0:49.2	achievers make in relationships, and why finding love might be a lot more about who you are than who you meet.
0:56.5	So let's get into it.
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