Welcome to Just Break Up, the podcast about love, heartbreak, and all the relationship

advice you don't want to hear.

My name is Sierra de Mother.

And I'm Sam Blackwell.

And today we're going to answer a letter from somebody who just got dumped after five years of on again, off again.

But before we begin, we just want to give you our Surgeon General's warning, which is that Sierra

and I are not licensed mental health practitioners.

No, we are not No, we are not

professionals, we are not trained in any of this, so please take our advice as you see fit.

We're only here to offer our humble museums.

So hopefully we've said some understanding and maybe some laughs about the incredibly rewarding but mostly confusing experience that is love.

All right let's dive into today's letter. The letter is coming to us from Let's self-worthlessness. My boyfriend, he, him 35, and I, she, her 44, were together in a monogamous

relationship for five years. The friendship started shortly before my divorce and during his breakup from a live-in girlfriend.

Our romantic relationship started about one year after my divorce and six months after his breakup,

although he still lived with his ex, while broken up and dating me.

She was still trying to convince him to reconcile.

They were on again off again and they would quote take breaks and he would call me to

spend time with him.

After nine months into our relationship, my boyfriend started feeling regret for hurting his

ex by developing feelings for me while they were still together.

He told me that the thought of having sex with me

disgusts him because he knows it hurts his ex-girlfriend. He tried to call things off

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