Welcome to Just Break Up, the podcast about love, heartbreak, and all the relationship

advice you don't want to hear.

My name is Sierra de Mulder.

And I'm Sam Blackwell.

And today we're going to answer a letter from somebody whose partner isn't

okay with her complaining about money.

But before we begin we just want to give you our Surgeon General's warning which is that

Sierra and I are not licensed mental health practitioners.

No, we are not we are not professionals, we are not trained in any of this.

These are just our opinions from our lived experience, so please take our advice as you see fit.

We're only here to offer our humble, humble museums so hopefully

shed some understanding and maybe some laughs about the incredibly rewarding but

mostly confusing experience that is love.

All right, so today's letter is coming to us from stalemate,

whose pronouns are she, her, who is writing to us from

at an impasse.

Hi, Sam, and Sierra, thank you for taking time to read this letter. My partner and my values seem to be clashing.

For them, it is an issue of class and boundaries.

And for me, it's an issue of self-expression and

individuality. My partner they then grew up low income let's call them M. They shared

a bedroom with their family of four until their family could afford a larger home

They didn't go on family vacations. They were able to access private school and attended a prestigious college with the help of scholarships and student loans,

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