Episode 407 - The Dr. Cloud Show - Skills for Handling Gaslighting
The Boundaries.me Podcast
Greg Bowler
4.7 • 815 Ratings
🗓️ 26 April 2024
⏱️ 87 minutes
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Summary
Just knowing what gaslighting is can be a big first step to breaking free from it . The problem is that withstanding gaslighting is another matter. Dr. Henry Cloud discusses the concept of gaslighting, a psychological technique used to manipulate and control others by making them question their own reality. He delves into how gaslighters undermine individuals' subjective experience of reality to gain power over them. Dr. Cloud explains the impact of gaslighting on individuals, the vulnerable traits that make someone susceptible to it, and provides tips on how to recognize and deal with gaslighting behavior effectively.
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| 0:00.0 | It's the Dr. Cloud Show, and that's the place where we get to talk about you and your life and all things that I like to think, things that we can shrink wrap, right? |
| 0:16.9 | Because you've got your shrink here sitting with you. You don't have to lie down on the couch. |
| 0:21.4 | This is the program, by the way, where I talk about, what can you shrink crap? Well, it's |
| 0:25.3 | in parts of life that psychologists deal with, and that would be me. It's your clinical issues, |
| 0:31.4 | depression and stress and anxiety and fear and addictions and being in a relationship with people |
| 0:37.3 | that have those maybe. |
| 0:38.3 | Also, speaking of relationships, that's the second big piece of the pie we talk about, |
| 0:43.3 | all things relational, marriage, family, parenting, kids, coworkers, extended family, |
| 0:48.3 | Uncle Harry, whoever it is, is kind of making you a little nutty maybe or that you want to help. |
| 0:53.3 | And then the third piece is reaching our dreams and goals. |
| 0:57.2 | Psychology, and particularly, I've spent a lot of time in performance psychology with high |
| 1:02.6 | performers. |
| 1:03.4 | And a lot of times we have dreams. |
| 1:06.1 | But until they become sort of reality, we get kind of losing hope and doesn't feel good, and |
| 1:15.1 | you start to question yourself. Well, there's actually quite a bit of science that tells |
| 1:20.2 | us how to get there. And so that's kind of grist for the mill too. So we're going to hop in |
| 1:25.1 | all that. What is gas lighting? Well, it's basically, it's a psychological |
| 1:31.1 | technique. It's a tool. It's a strategy that people use to make the other person, meaning you, |
| 1:40.7 | question your own reality. I mean, what's worse than not knowing what's real? |
| 1:47.2 | But once they can get you to question your reality |
| 1:50.4 | and your reality of your experience with them or life or some event or yourself, |
| 1:56.6 | they can gain power over you. |
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