Episode 406 - The Dr. Cloud Show - Becoming a Free and Separate Person
The Boundaries.me Podcast
Greg Bowler
4.7 • 815 Ratings
🗓️ 15 April 2024
⏱️ 88 minutes
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Summary
You may think you are a separate and free person when you look in the mirror. You’re not physically attached to someone else. As a person connected to others through relationships however you might not be the free and separate person you see in the mirror. Dr. Henry Cloud talks about how so many of us are not free and separate people within our relationships. You might not be in charge of making decisions, someone might be controlling the decisions and behaviors that should be yours! Here’s the question: Right now, do you have any relationships where you don’t experience yourself as free to make your own choices without losing love? Free to make your own choices without a guilt trip being put on you? Free to make your own choices without them pouting and feeling abandoned? Dr. Cloud teaches you ways to start regaining your freedom by using boundaries to limit the control others have over you.
Audience Write-in Question:
My boyfriend gets jealous easily, but my friends say that means he really loves me. Is that true, or is this a problem?
Kimberly has a 23 year old son that went through a truly terrible break up. He’s extremely depressed. She and her husband are actively getting them help but they don’t know what to do next.
Sal’s wife wants a divorce. She’s said she doesn’t love him and doesn’t know if she ever really did. What can he do to open up communication and how can he deal with the heartache?
Being estranged from someone you once were close to can be a painful reality to live in. Should you reconcile? When? How? How can we fix the pain of estrangement? Does it get easier? What is my role in this process? What is mine to own? What should I do?
Dr. Cloud wants to help you navigate this terrain. Go to https://boundaries.me/reconcile to find out more about the 2 hour live webinar with Dr. Cloud.
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| 0:00.0 | Hey guys, welcome back. It is a Dr. Cloud Show, and it's time for you to talk to me. |
| 0:12.7 | That means you get to call in on this program. And if you are, whoops, if you are watching it |
| 0:18.4 | later, you get to hear the people that called in because, you know what? |
| 0:22.4 | We all got issues, right? |
| 0:24.1 | And on this show, we talk about our life issues as it relates to kind of shrink land because I am your resident head shrinker. |
| 0:32.9 | And we're going to talk about a lot of stuff. |
| 0:36.1 | Let me see. |
| 0:36.7 | I'm supposed to make a couple of quick |
| 0:38.0 | announcements before we get into the topic of the day. We have a webinar coming up on |
| 0:45.1 | reconciliation and estrangement. So if you've got a relationship that you're estranged from, |
| 0:51.4 | it might be a toxic one and you wonder how that could get put back together. |
| 0:56.0 | It might be, you know, others had a disagreement. Now, nobody likes each other. |
| 0:59.0 | You know, one of you looks at life this way and the other one. |
| 1:04.0 | Anyway, you got sideways. |
| 1:06.0 | And many times the one that is listed stuff like this is not the one at fault. |
| 1:11.6 | But sometimes it takes two to tango. |
| 1:14.6 | We're going to look at all that. When should you try to reconcile? |
| 1:18.6 | You know, a lot of times you shouldn't, but there are specific guidelines to know when to |
| 1:23.6 | and when not to. And sometimes it gets fuzzy and will help you diagnose us. |
| 1:29.1 | And if you do want to reconcile and it does look like it might have a chance and when to have |
| 1:35.8 | hope and you got some hope for good reasons, then I'm going to give you a path of how to do |
| 1:40.7 | that. |
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