Episode 40: Your Financial Roadmap for Divorce with Kimberly Nelson
The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
Kate Anthony
4.4 • 575 Ratings
🗓️ 26 August 2019
⏱️ 56 minutes
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Summary
Divorce is a transactional process. You are making decisions about property, money, and time. It's not a referendum on the emotional state—who did what, who's right or who's wrong. "If that's what you're litigating, you're setting yourself for financial and legal disaster," this week's guest, Kimberly Nelson, says. Kimberly has been working with high net worth divorcees in the LA area for more than 15 years. She understands the challenges women face when navigating an overwhelming bevy of attorneys, accountants, insurers and other advisors during the dissolution process.
Let's talk finances and divorce. Some of us are better at making money than we are at saving money. And some of us are certainly better at spending money than anything else (um, hi). But what happens to your finances when you get divorced? It's a super important conversation to have and I am happy to have Kimberly Nelson, an expert in this area, join me to talk about all things money related.
Kimberly has sat next to countless divorcing spouses facing significant financial challenges during an overwhelmingly emotional time. Emotional turmoil tends to cloud decision-making. Our hope is that this episode will provide a roadmap for detangling conjoined financial affairs and allow you to move forward with divorce with peace and empowerment rather than fear.
Show Highlights
- What the financial goal for divorce should be (8:29)
- Keeping track of your expenses, what and how (including daily living expenses, health insurance and more) (10:40)
- Stash cash: what is it and how to make sure you have access to cash that's available to you, when needed (13:16)
- The importance of letting the dust settle before making these financial decisions (21:08)
- Focus on divisions as transactions that you're trying to negotiate instead of marital rights and wrongs that you're trying to litigate (22:04)
- Why it's really hard to be a grownup about money (25:46)
- Inventorying and splitting up assets and debt, why it's important (28:11)
- What you need to know about personal credit, especially if it's wrapped up with your spouse and marriage (38:55)
- House negotiations, If you need to let go of the house, realize wherever you go, you are home to your children (42:09)
Learn More Kimberly Nelson:
Kimberly has been working with high net worth divorcees in the LA area for more than 15 years. She understands the challenges women face when navigating an overwhelming bevy of attorneys, accountants, insurers and other advisors during the dissolution process. Kimberly's team at Coastal Bridge Advisors prides itself on its ability to organize all the advisory elements in a coordinated manner and ensure that the advice their clients receive is clear, constant and in the best interest of the family or individual.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to another episode of the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have real, honest, smart, |
| 0:11.6 | and sometimes even hilarious conversations about co-parenting, separation, and divorce, and all that goes along with that. |
| 0:18.9 | I'm Kate Anthony, your Divorce Survival Guide, certified life and relationship coach, |
| 0:23.6 | and happily divorced mom, who helps women decide if they should stay in or leave their marriages |
| 0:28.0 | and then guides them through the process one step at a time. |
| 0:34.7 | Hey, everyone. |
| 0:36.2 | Welcome back to another episode. So my son started high school this week. Oh my God, |
| 0:45.4 | there's nothing that makes you feel old quite like having a child in high school. |
| 0:59.7 | For those of you whose kids are still little and you feel like the time is going, it really is because pretty soon you're going to be as old as me, |
| 1:05.5 | which is as old as dirt, by the way, and have a kid in high school. I'm not old as dirt. I'm kidding. |
| 1:11.5 | Before I bring you today's guest, I want to talk to you about a conversation that |
| 1:17.3 | something that keeps coming up in my Facebook group, which if you're a woman, you should |
| 1:22.5 | 100% join. |
| 1:23.7 | One of the conversations that we have over and over again in there is as women are starting |
| 1:28.9 | to come to the realization that a lot of what they have been living with is not okay. And |
| 1:36.6 | this is a phrase that's repeated over and over again. Well, I mean, it's not like he like hits me |
| 1:41.4 | or anything. And my response to that is like, is the bar |
| 1:46.3 | really that low? Like, is that what we're talking about here? Well, he doesn't hit me so it's okay. |
| 1:52.0 | Like, are you fucking kidding me? And what I also find happens is that when women tell their stories, |
| 1:57.2 | this is why we need to be in community about this stuff, because when we hear |
| 2:01.4 | other women's stories, we have an objective point of view, and we relate to it so much. We relate |
| 2:09.0 | to the stories and the experiences, but we have a completely different reaction to it when it's |
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