Episode 35: Fine, I’ll Just Do It Myself: The Danger of Weaponized Incompetence

Pillow Talks

Vanessa & Xander Marin

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.8 • 2.2K Ratings

🗓️ 20 January 2022

⏱️ 77 minutes

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Summary

Has your partner ever done a task so poorly or asked you so many questions that you finally just said “fine, I’ll do it myself!”? This is called weaponized incompetence, and while your partner may not mean for it to be, it can be harmful in a relationship. In this episode we’re going to talk about how to identify weaponized incompetence, how it shows up in OUR relationship, and what to do if you or your partner are doing this.

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0:00.0	I think as women, there's a lot of pressure put on us,
0:02.4	I think in particular on mothers,
0:04.4	to do it all, to be able to take care of all of it,
0:07.4	and not need any help, be so detail oriented,
0:11.4	and I think it's hurting so many women.
0:15.1	[♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪
0:20.1	Hello and welcome to the Pillotox podcast.
0:23.9	We're your host, Vanessa.
0:25.3	And Zander Marin.
0:26.6	I'm a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience.
0:29.6	And I'm just a regular dude.
0:31.2	We share the ups and downs in our relationship
0:33.4	while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours.
0:36.9	Make sure you subscribe for your weekly double date
0:39.3	full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice,
0:43.4	hilarious and honest stories of what really
0:46.0	goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more.
0:49.7	It's the sex education you wish you'd had.
0:54.0	We're starting today, not with a song, not with a dance,
0:57.7	but with a story.
0:59.7	It's a cozy rainy day here in L.A.
1:02.8	We've got the pugs in the studio with us,
	...

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