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freshest streaming service. Welcome to Just Break Up, the Podcast About Love, Heartbreak, and all the relationship

advice you don't want to hear.

My name is Sierra de Mulder.

And I'm Sam Blackwell.

And today we're going to answer a letter from somebody who is wondering if she should reach out to her ex.

But before we begin, we just want to give you our Surgeon General's warning, which is that Sierra and I are not licensed mental health practitioners.

Correct. We are not trained in any of this. We are not professionals.

So please take our advice as you see fit. We're only here to offer our humble museums.

So hopefully we've had some understanding and maybe some laughs

about the incredibly rewarding but mostly confusing experience that is love.

All right everyone our letter today comes from Stuck in Second Gear, whose pronouns are

She Her, who is writing from The Void. My now X, he, him, and I, She Her,

broke up at the beginning of this year after almost four years together.

Our first three years felt at the time blissful.

He made me feel safe and understood while I made him feel accepted and prioritized.

We knew since the beginning that I had an avoidant attachment style and he, a more anxious

one.

Despite that, we worked hard to be secure for one another.

About three years in, we moved in together

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