Hello and welcome to the bear marriage podcast.

I'm your host, Rebecca Lindenback, once again in the first seat, never again to be delegated to second seat. I found my place while

Sheila was gone and I shall not give it up in vain. No, in all seriousness, we are in another season

of busyness as we are getting ready. We have personal stuff going on, moving houses.

Yes, yes. She's moving houses. So I did a lot of the background work for the podcast that's happening. I believe technically you did all the background work. Yes, I did all of the background work. And so I don't even know really what we're going to talk about. So I'm going to be here just for you to bounce stuff off of it. And I'm so excited. Exactly. This is awesome. But of course, here at Bear Marriage, this is where you come for evidence-based, healthy, biblical advice for marriage and sex. Yes. And first of all, before we get into this, we as always want to thank everyone who makes this podcast possible, our patrons for sure, who support us every month for as little as $5 a month getting access to our exclusive Facebook group where you also get to every now and then, hear me go on unhinged rants. Yeah. And you get access to Joanna's Book Club for, I think, $8 a month. Yeah. Yep, we have Joanna's Book Club. They're going through Pride and Prejudice currently. And those are Joanna's unhinged rams. Yes. So it's just great. And also, of course, everyone who's donated to the Good Fruit Faith Foundation, which is an initiative by the Bosco Foundation that supports the work that we do to get this message out to as many people as possible. Yeah. Our translation work, our work in academic papers, all kinds of, our docu series that we do, et cetera, et cetera. Exactly. So thank you so much to everyone who makes this possible. And if you are looking to support us, you can find the links to our Patreon and to Bosco in the description.

But one thing you can do right now, I got a comment on Facebook today where someone said, I am just liking and commenting to help the algorithm. And yay, we love people who do that.

So if you're watching on YouTube, hit subscribe, hit like. It helps other people see it. And wherever you listen to us or follow us on social media, remember to leave a comment and like, and then other people will see this in their feed. Okay. What are we talking about today, Rebecca? So we're about to delve into the book for men only. Okay. And a fun fact you all should know is that this copy of For Men Only came from my bookshelf. Yes. Yes. Because when Connor and I were getting married, someone gave him for men only because he was a

relatively new Christian and he was getting married.

And so Connor not wanting to be prideful.

He read this book and he really took it to heart and he for the first couple months of

our marriage really, really tried to implement a lot of the teachings in this book and how he talked to me, how he handled conflict with me. And we will get into

some stories of how that affected us. But I have been hearing this story since even before we

started on Great Sex Rescue. Yes. It was how, like, one day you came to him and said, what are you doing? What the heck happened? Like, are you so, we are going to get into it. I have some very specific examples. Yeah. Which are pretty funny. But yes, Connor actually read this book, cover to cover, really took it to heart, worked through it and worked his darnness to apply the wisdom of Jeff and Shanty Feldon in our marriage. Yes. And it was one of the, it was actually interesting. It was one of the first times that we, that you guys, you guys read a Christian marriage book before I did. And it didn't work. It didn't work. And this was literally like first four months of our marriage. Like this back in 2015. Yeah. and it made things worse. It made things worse. It really did. Yeah. So we're going to figure it.

Why?

And I want, and here's here, I'm going to give a mass. I don't care. It's a spoiler. It's not a spoiler. You've been around here for a while. Yeah. I want you, as we're looking through this, the big theme that I want us to talk about with this is emotional health and emotional maturity.

And what does this say about what they are assuming about men?

Okay?

And before we even get into the book, I actually want to read you what Shanti writes to the wives at the beginning of this book.

Okay.

There was nothing to husbands at the beginning of for women only.

But there is this to wives. I'm only going to read a bit of it. A note from Shanti to women readers. I want to give a warm greeting and an important caution to any curious fellow females peeking in at what we're telling guys about how we are wired. Women tend to process things by talking them through. So when women read or listen to the findings and for women

only, they often turn to their husbands or boyfriend and say usually an astonishment, is this

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