Jesus is supposed to be life-giving, and he is, but what happens when the church isn't?

Hi, I'm Sheila Ray Gregor from Bearmarriage.com,

where we like to talk about healthy evidence-based

biblical advice for your sex life and your marriage. And today, we're going to take a big step back

and we're going to ask, what do you do if you've been in a church which has caused you trauma?

What do you do if the religious beliefs that you grew up with didn't end up being life-giving,

but instead suck the life right out of you and you're still figuring out how to recover from that?

We have an amazing interview coming up with Tia Levings, one of my friends who's going to go into that about her new book.

But I need to tell you, we here at Bear Marriage believe two things. And the first is that God is good.

God loves us. God wants us to have life abundantly and we get that life through Jesus. But we also

believe that the church has missed the mark so much when it comes to women and relationships

that in many cases the church is doing more harm than good. And that's what we want to expose

here at bear marriage, not because we don't like the church, but because we love the church.

And we are so tired of people being traumatized and running away from the church and leaving Jesus

because the church has been awful to them.

And that's got to stop.

And I understand if you have left the church and you just feel like you can't read the Bible anymore

and you're not even sure Jesus exists,

just know this is a safe space for you. Okay, we welcome everyone here who has questions.

But church, we've got to do better. And we have to be real that the people who are traumatized and who are leaving are not doing it because they want to sin. They're doing it because

the church has done something very, very wrong.

And we're going to talk about how to recover if you're one of those people. How do you move

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