Episode 312: Why The Complementarian Bar for Men is in the Basement

Bare Marriage

Sheila Gregoire

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🗓️ 22 January 2026

⏱️ 64 minutes

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Send us Fan Mail We're tackling three really problematic things that have happened recently with evangelical leaders that show just how low the bar has gotten for men. From Jonathan Podluka announcing he wants to sleep with multiple beautiful women, to pastors responding to Philip Yancey's affair by saying "it could be any of us," to Tim Challies telling people in miserable marriages to just stick it out until they die—it's all connected to this theology that refuses to hold men accountable a...

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Bear Marriage podcast. I'm Sheila Ray Gregor from Bear Marriage.com,
0:15.2	where we like to talk about healthy evidence-based biblical advice for your sex life and your
0:18.6	marriage. And I am joined for the first time in 2006 by my husband Keith. Hey, everybody. And we are going to talk about how the bar for men
0:26.6	in evangelicalism is in Hades. And seriously, can we just raise it up? Just a little bit. Just a
0:33.5	little bit would be great, you know? So we've got three different pastors to talk about today, or at least three different Christian
0:40.8	leaders, who have all said problematic things or done problematic things lately.
0:45.5	Okay?
0:45.8	So we're going to look at Jonathan Picluda, SBC megachurch pastor, Tim Chalice, a reformed pastor from
0:50.9	Toronto, and a big in the gospel gospel coalition and just pastors reactions in general to
0:57.0	the Philippiancy affair.
0:58.6	This has been a podcast that has been several weeks in the making because all of this stuff has
1:02.0	been happening and I've been wanting to respond like right away because it's all so bad.
1:07.3	But we had other things lined up.
1:08.9	So this is my chance to get everything off my chest. Yes. And the thing is is, you're not bashing men because you think men can be better than this. Yes, exactly. I don't understand why I have a higher view of men than these guys do. The expectations in the evangelical world are just so low. It's crazy. It's absolutely nuts. Before we get started, I have another amazing announcement, which is in just a few weeks.
1:29.6	Okay, we're looking at February 5th, I believe. We are going to be launching our podcast series
1:36.1	Happily Never After the Curious Case of Love and Respect. It's a three-part docu series that we have done.
1:43.1	It's going to be up on YouTube. It's going to be up on
1:45.0	the Good Fruit Faith podcast channel. And we're going to be running the first episode here at Bear
1:49.9	Marriage to hear the other ones. You're going to have to subscribe to the accompanying podcast
1:54.9	channel. More about that on February 5th. But this has been so many, well, it's been over a year in the making with Joanna and
2:02.7	Rebecca in the background. And this is one of the things that we raise money for. And we're just hoping
2:07.1	that this podcast series gets out there so that people can see, these are the bigger problems
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