Welcome to the love honor and vacuum podcast. I'm Sheila from the to love honor and

vacuum blog where we like to talk about how to make marriage a passionate

adventure and not just a to-do list and today I have an important question for you.

What do you think when you hear the word sexy?

In July on the block I was talking about specific things that we could do to make our sex lives great.

But this coming month, I want to talk about how we can re-embrace the term sexy and put it back where it belongs,

because I think that we have let that word be co-opted to mean

something kind of negative when really sexy is okay, sexy is even good and it is something that we should be feeling

so let's look into this

all right I think we tend to think the word sexy is the equivalent of the word slutty.

So it means a woman who was interested in sex with anybody at any time.

And that desire to be sexy is almost about something anonymous. So we're

sexy to the world at large. think of someone who is dressing in a provocative way so that other people will lust after her.

Now please note, as I have said so many times, I do not believe that you are to blame if someone lusts after you.

Okay, that is entirely on them.

At the same time, I think that to dress provocatively,

deliberately,

so that you're trying to get guys

to look at certain body parts and trying

to get a certain reaction from them is also wrong.

Dressing so that you're pretty and looking like you respect yourself and then some guy

taken it the wrong way totally on him, okay?

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