Do men desperately need respect while women desperately need love?

Well, that is the thesis of a lot of bestselling books in evangelicalism like love and respect for

women only, his needs, her needs, marriage on the rock by Jimmy Evans, power of a praying wife,

basically all of the bestsellers say that, you know, respect is this God-given need of a man.

And today on the Bear Marriage podcast, we have new data.

And I'm so excited because we are going to share with you what is actually the case.

I'm Sheila Ray Gregor from bearmarriage.com where we like to talk about healthy, evidence-based,

biblical advice for your marriage and your sex life.

And I am joined by my husband Keith.

Hey, everybody.

And I'm really stoked about this one.

This one has been years in the making, but we have some awesome stuff to share with you

from our data, from our new book, The Marriage You Want, which is out in March.

Yeah, it's exciting.

Yeah, and in that book, we're not talking about gender roles and gender essentialism and all the things that evangelical books have typically talked about when it comes to marriage. Instead, we just ask the questions, what leads to a healthy marriage.

And we don't just talk about our personal experience. We talk about what the data actually shows. Yes. So the actual, we look at everybody and we say what

actually works and what doesn't work as opposed to just, this is what I think we should believe.

So let's just all do it. Yeah. And we don't, we don't distort our findings. So it's super fun.

And I am so stoked about this. And I want to start by actually bringing Joanna and Rebecca on the podcast

to share the data and then you can come back and we can talk about what we think about this love

and respect dichotomy.

All right, everybody, this is the one we've been waiting for.

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