Welcome to the Bear Marriage Podcast. I'm Sheila Ray Gregoire from Bear Marriage.com where we like to talk about healthy

evidence-based biblical advice for your sex life and your marriage. Today is January 19th and on the third week of January for the last, this is the fourth year now, I have been looking, taking indepth look at the book Love and Respect.

For those of you who know our journey to writing the great sex rescue,

which is our book based on our survey of 20,000 women

to see how certain key evangelical beliefs affect women's

marital and sexual satisfaction.

That journey started because I read love and respect.

I wasn't planning on working. It was a Friday afternoon in January of 2019. I had a

migraine I was procrastinating and I was on Twitter and some people were debating

whether they needed respect or love and they were women and I thought well I need respect and I had that book upstairs and I'd never read it and I thought this is a great way to procrastinate and feel like I'm still working.

So I went and I got the book and I read the sex chapter and I immediately started

face timing Rebecca and Joanna, Rebecca my daughter and Joanna, now my co-author on the Great Sex Rescue, to talk about

some of the horrendous things that were in that chapter.

For the next week, we talked about love and respect on the blog and we were inundated by emails from

women who said that book had enabled abuse in their marriage.

We were very concerned. I had been on focus on the family several times and focus on the family

publishes love and respect. So I had a relationship with them and I thought maybe they just don't know.

Like they don't want to hurt people. They must they would care about this if they knew. Maybe they just don't know. And so we prepared an in-depth report on what women had told us and we sent it in to focus on the family and they ignored us.

And we thought, well, they can ignore a couple hundred women, but can they ignore several

thousand? And that's when we did our survey survey which became the great sex rescue.

Every year since then we have addressed a different aspect of the book in January

and I'll put a link to some of the things that we talked about on each of our podcasts and everything.

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