Episode 170: Lundy Bancroft
The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
Kate Anthony
4.4 • 573 Ratings
🗓️ 2 June 2022
⏱️ 58 minutes
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Summary
Lundy Bancroft is the author of five books in the field, including the national prize-winner The Batterer as Parent, Why Does He Do That?, When Dad Hurts Mom, Daily Wisdom and Should I Stay Or Should I Go? He has worked with over a thousand abusers directly as an intervention counselor, and has served as clinical supervisor on another thousand cases
Show Highlights
- Acknowledging that you do have a right to be heard about the injustice that was done. But do it in a way that is not hurting you (8:20)
- What to do when you get in a custody dispute with your abuser, why you need an attorney who understands divorcing an abuser, as well as, what to know if you represent yourself (10:51)
- The myth that a man can abuse a child's mother and still be a great dad. It's impossible. The single best predictor of how a man will treat their children is how they treat their child's mother (28:34)
- How a woman can increase her chance of a favorable divorce outcome (34:05)
- Social change and what is really needed to reform the family court system (45:14)
- How the fathers' rights movement is an abusers' movement and what we can do in the face of it (50:37)
Learn more about Lundy Bancroft:
Lundy Bancroft is the author of five books in the field, including the national prize-winner The Batterer as Parent, Why Does He Do That?, When Dad Hurts Mom, Daily Wisdom, and Should I Stay Or Should I Go? He has worked with over a thousand abusers directly as an intervention counselor and has served as a clinical supervisor on another thousand cases. He has also served extensively as a custody evaluator, child abuse investigator, and expert witness in domestic violence and child abuse cases. Lundy appears across the United States as a presenter for judges and other court personnel, child protective workers, therapists, law enforcement officials, and other audiences.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go. |
| 0:17.8 | I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate some of |
| 0:23.3 | the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions. I've been to |
| 0:29.1 | hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side of this process |
| 0:35.1 | with your sanity and your heart intact. |
| 0:42.9 | Hey, everyone. Today's a big one. Seriously, I think my guest needs very little introduction |
| 0:50.9 | in these parts. But for those of you who don't know, Lundy Bancroft is the author |
| 0:58.4 | of five books in the field, including the National Prize winner, the batterer as parent. |
| 1:06.1 | Why does he do that? Which I think almost all of you have read, when dad hurts mom, daily |
| 1:14.2 | wisdom, and should I stay or should I go? |
| 1:16.4 | He has worked with over a thousand abusers directly as an intervention counselor and has |
| 1:23.7 | served as clinical supervisor on another thousand cases. |
| 1:28.9 | He's also served extensively as a custody evaluator, child abuse investigator, and expert witness in domestic violence and |
| 1:34.1 | abuse cases. Lundy appears across the United States as a presenter for judges and other court |
| 1:40.0 | personnel, child protective workers, therapists, law enforcement officials, and other audiences. |
| 1:47.1 | And I am so incredibly honored that Lundy joined me on the podcast today. |
| 1:54.3 | And it's an incredible conversation. |
| 1:56.5 | And I'm not even going to say anymore because I just want you to listen to the wisdom that is Lundy Bancroft. |
| 2:04.4 | Lundy Bancroft. |
| 2:06.5 | I am so happy to have you on the show today. |
| 2:09.1 | I can't even tell you. |
| 2:10.4 | Thank you so much for being here. |
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