Episode 169: The Facebook Narcissist with Lena Derhally
The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
Kate Anthony
4.4 • 573 Ratings
🗓️ 26 May 2022
⏱️ 63 minutes
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Summary
We are talking today about social media narcissism and other harmful effects of using social media; like cyberbullying and the growth of the mental health crisis among today's youth. My guest, Lena Derhally, helps us to better understand these topics during our conversation and in her newest book, The Facebook Narcissist: How to Identify and Protect Yourself and Your Loved Ones from Social Media Narcissism. Not only do we discuss social media, but we also delve into narcissism and how it shows up and is exacerbated by social media.
This episode is not a call to arms to deactivate your social media accounts. Instead, it is a reminder to be mindful of social media and its effects on all facets of our lives, as well as a reminder to learn how to protect ourselves and our kids from the negative effects we are seeing from social media today.
Show Highlights
- Why is narcissism such a huge topic right now? (4:22)
- How some narcissists are exploitive in nature and what that actually means (10:24)
- The subtypes of narcissism: grandiose, vulnerable, communal, and collective (6:29)
- How social media affects narcissism and narcissistic behaviors (24:16)
- The addictive nature of social media, influencer culture, and the effects on mental health (33:37)
- How the narcissistic thread in social media is impacting our relationships (40:21)
- Social media, cyberbullying, and its role in the growing mental health crisis of children (51:41)
- Why Lena believes there needs to be more resources and attention on the effects of social media (52:12)
- How to be an empathetic digital citizen (58:07)
Learn more about Lena Derhally:
Lena Derhally is a Washington DC-based licensed and Imago certified psychotherapist in private practice. She is the author of the Amazon True Crime and Criminology bestseller, My Daddy is a Hero: How Chris Watts Went from Family Man to Family Killer, and the forthcoming pop psychology book, The Facebook Narcissist: How to Identify and Protect Yourself and Your Loved Ones from Social Media Narcissism. Her work and expertise have been featured in Oprah Magazine, SELF, Glamour, The Washington Post, A&E, Hollywood Life, The Huffington Post, Law and Crime, Tubi TV, and more. She was formerly a clinical instructor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at the George Washington School of Medicine, where she mentored medical students, and she is on the advisory board of 1455 Literary Arts.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go. |
| 0:17.8 | I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate some of |
| 0:23.3 | the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions. I've been to |
| 0:29.1 | hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side of this process |
| 0:35.1 | with your sanity and your heart intact. |
| 0:42.9 | Hey everyone, welcome back. Just a quick reminder that for the month of June, I am opening up my |
| 0:53.6 | sanity saver sessions to all of you guys. So if you have ever |
| 1:00.4 | thought, oh my God, I just need like an hour of Kate's time. I just need to run this stuff by |
| 1:04.8 | her. You know, let me make a quick plan for how to have the conversation, how to tell my kids, |
| 1:14.2 | how do I navigate this sort of co-parenting landscape? |
| 1:18.6 | By the way, I spent the last few weeks becoming certified with my dear friend Christina |
| 1:26.5 | McGee through the Mostyn Guthrie |
| 1:29.6 | as a co-parenting specialist so I'm now certified as a co-parenting specialist I have a |
| 1:35.0 | lot more to say about that in the coming weeks but for now if you have questions about |
| 1:41.5 | co-parenting any of those things anything if anything, if you're like, oh, fuck, |
| 1:46.8 | I just want to talk to Kate. Sanity Saver sessions are now available to you just for the month of June, |
| 1:51.4 | though. That's it. And then they go bye-bye because I'm hunkering down and finishing my book for the |
| 1:58.5 | rest of the summer. So today's show, we are talking today about |
| 2:04.4 | the Facebook narcissist. I have with me an amazing guest, Lena Derholly. She's a licensed |
| 2:12.4 | and Imago certified psychotherapist in private practice. She's the author of the Amazon True Crime and Criminology Bestseller, My Daddy is a Hero, |
| 2:22.9 | How Chris Watts, Went from Family Man to Family Killer, and the forthcoming pop psychology |
| 2:29.3 | book, The Facebook Narcissist, How to Identify and Protect Yourself and Your Loved Ones from |
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