Episode 171: What Happens After You Leave Your Abusive Marriage? with Leanne Oaten

The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

Kate Anthony

Relationships, Self-improvement, Education, Society & Culture

4.4 • 573 Ratings

🗓️ 9 June 2022

⏱️ 47 minutes

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Summary

Leanne Oaten is back on the podcast! Listeners loved her previous episode so much that I invited her back to talk about what happens after you get out of an abusive relationship. We discuss the post-separation aftermath, which many women are not prepared for. Once all the dust settles and the reality sets in, questions and emotions bubble to the surface. We explore all the complexities of what happens when you re-awaken to life after domestic abuse.

Leanne is a former counselor who helps women decide whether to stay or leave their toxic, abusive, narcissistic relationship without wasting time going to therapy.

Show Highlights

Why women begin to question the abuse that transpired after they get out (4:11)
Using apps is a good solution for co-parenting with an abusive ex (9:57)
The emotional aspect of what lies on the other side once you've separated (14:10)
How to prepare for the what happens to you emotionally and physically after leaving an abuser (19:19)
Setting boundaries and understanding where to draw the line - also realize you aren't going to do it perfectly (24:44)
You can be friendly with a co-parent but you don't have to be friends (28:37)

Learn more about Leanne Oaten

Leanne Oaten is a former counselor with over 9 years of experience coaching and supporting clients. After working in the counseling field in private practice for several years, she decided to go virtual with her business to serve women all over the world. She educates and guides women who are experiencing narcissistic abuse to end the cycle and get clarity on whether to stay or leave.

Leanne Oaten founded Awakening Women Support in 2018 to begin sharing her unique and no bullsh*t perspectives on the patterns of narcissistic abuse and posts daily over on Instagram at instagram.com/awakeningwomensupport.

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Leanne's website
How to Know Whether to Stay or Leave Your Toxic Relationship
Lundy Bancroft episode
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Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Divorce Survival Guide podcast, where we have open and honest conversations about co-parenting, separation, divorce, and the hardest question of all, should you stay or should you go.
0:17.8	I'm Kate Anthony, your divorce survival guide, and I'm here to help you navigate some of
0:23.3	the roughest waters you've ever swum in and answer some of your toughest questions. I've been to
0:29.1	hell and back, and now it's my mission in life to help you get to the other side of this process
0:35.1	with your sanity and your heart intact.
0:43.0	Hey, everyone. Welcome back. So today I have my friend Leanne Oten back on the podcast. You guys
0:52.8	loved her when she was on before, so I brought her back for some more.
0:56.3	Before I get to that, I just want to let you know that if you have questions that you want me to
1:02.2	answer in another Q&A episode, load them all up on Kateanthony.com slash questions.
1:10.1	And I will probably be doing a couple, two or three
1:14.3	Q&A episodes throughout the summer. So I will happily answer your questions when you
1:21.8	submit them. Today, as I said, my friend Leanne Oten is back. Leanne is a former counselor who helps women decide whether to stay or leave their toxic, abusive, narcissistic relationship without wasting time going to therapy.
1:37.3	How about that?
1:38.6	And today we're talking all about what happens on the other side. So we talked last week with Lundy Bancroft about,
1:47.3	you know, sort of post-separation abuse in the court system and how the court system really
1:51.5	does not support us in the aftermath. And now we're talking with Leanne about really the emotional
1:58.9	experience that victims have, like when they're on the other side,
2:04.7	when they've left, when they've sort of, when we think that it's going to be like,
2:08.6	whew, I made it. And then we are shocked by what happens on the other side and our emotional
2:16.4	response to it. So I am super excited and happy to have my friend Leanne Oaten back.
2:23.5	And without further ado, here's my conversation with Leanne.
2:29.2	Leanne, my friend, thank you so much for coming back on.
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