Hey guys, my name is John Kim. I'm a licensed therapist and life coach putting

self betterment into a shot class because let's face it who's got that much time

these days. I come unpolished, unrehearsed, on purpose. If you're

looking for more of a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place.

One of the things that I've always struggled with and I still do except not as much is I

disqualify the positive and I don't know why I do this I don't know if it has to do with the way I was brought up.

I know that my mom, she, you know, I always use the example that if she won the lottery the first thing she would say is like

fuck all the taxes I have to pay on this 20 million dollars you know I mean I don't

know if she would use the word fuck but you know what I'm saying

anyway she doesn't get too happy or excited but at the same time she also

doesn't drop or you know get to negative. I on the other hand do I it's really hard for me to

to really qualify and to accept and embrace the positive.

And I think what happens is if you get into a mindset, if you are not aware of your thinking

and your default is to always disqualify the positive, right?

This is by the way a cognitive distortion.

Many of us live with this.

I think it's the most most damaging because if you

Only are able to see if you only focus on the negative and you never accept and appreciate and value the positive things in your life.

So whether there are opportunities or accomplishments or the people you meet relationships friendships if you have this kind of mindset

where you're always disqualifying the positive then you're never gonna think that

you have anything you know and there there's very little room for

gratitude right and gratitude really elevates I think your state you know I

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